How To Stop Feeling Guilty Or Stressed Out About Blogging

Author, writer and blogger Robbie Cheadle recently published a blog post that asked the question ‘How Do You Keep Up With Your Blog?

The title of Robbie’s post intrigued me, and I immediately clicked to read it.

To me, ‘keep up with your blog‘ made it sound like a bit of a chore; something no blogger should ever feel about blogging.

However, in the post, Robbie describes some of the struggles she faces not only writing and publishing blog posts but also with reading and leaving comments on other blogs.

Never get stressed out by blogging

By the time I read the post, many other bloggers had already left comments, and many made as compelling reading as the post itself. 

A call for help?

Some of the comments mentioned how stressed out and guilty people felt because they couldn’t keep up with reading and leaving comments on all the blog posts of the blogs they follow.

Other comments mentioned ‘skimming’ blog posts (especially long blog posts) because they didn’t have the time to read everything. To me, this made reading those posts sound as if the reader was on some kind of time trial where they had to read and comment on a certain amount of blog posts within a particular time.

I also got the impression that some readers left short comments because they didn’t have enough time to leave longer comments, which may have given Robbie lots more feedback and answers had they done so.

Why did you start a blog?  

One of the reasons why I decided to take up blogging was because I thought it would be fun and enjoyable. Some of the comments left on Robbie’s post didn’t sound as if bloggers were enjoying blogging. 

I’ll be the first to admit that I have found myself stressed out and feeling guilty because I wasn’t able to keep up with all the new blog posts published by the bloggers I was following. It was a low point on my blogging journey. 

Some days, I was finding myself doing little else but reading and leaving comments on blog posts. 

Some of the bloggers I followed were publishing more than a few blog posts a day. I soon found myself apologising to people for not reading their posts or for not being on WordPress 24 hours a day! 

But did anyone care or expect an apology from me? I don’t think so.   

So I know exactly how some of the bloggers who left those types of comments on Robbie’s post were feeling.

At that low point in my blogging journey, I knew that I had a choice to make. I either had to give up blogging or change the way I was blogging. 

Blogging had become a chore, and I saw my blog as a monster that was doing everything it could to make me want to fight it.

I dreaded switching on my computer every morning to see the overwhelming numbers of new blog post notifications. 

All of this had to end.

The turning point

While thinking about what I should do, it struck me that I was not doing the main thing that I’d come to WordPress to do – to write!

Although I like to believe I have a few superpowers, I’m afraid that one of them is not being able to read every single new blog post from all the bloggers I follow.

And you know what? Just about every single blogger I know thinks precisely the same thing. 

It didn’t take me long to make my choice. After all, I’d created my blog so that I could write, have fun, and enjoy the experience of being a blogger.

I decreased my reading time and began to write more.

#winner #writing #competition
You’re a winner!

I stopped following back every single blogger who followed my blog. If they didn’t have an ‘about me’ page (so I could find out more about them) or they blogged about subjects that did not interest me, then I didn’t follow back. 

Best of all, I didn’t feel guilty for not following them back. Why waste my time reading something that doesn’t really interest me? I wouldn’t read a book that didn’t interest me, so why a blog?

Always follow a blog for a reason, other than just because they followed you

When we follow a blog, we do so because we enjoy reading most of its content. Therefore, when somebody new follows my blog, I know the reader has at least enjoyed reading some of my content (or so I like to think).

Hopefully, they’ll also occasionally engage with me by sometimes leaving me some comments. 

As time went on, I also began to unfollow bloggers who changed the content of their blogs or whose content I didn’t particularly find interesting to read anymore. It happens, so get over it.  

I didn’t feel guilty doing this. It freed up valuable time for me; time which I could spend writing and supporting those bloggers whose blog content I find interesting and which motivates me to leave comments.

If you find yourself in a situation where blogging is making you feel guilty or is stressing you out, ask yourself some of the questions I asked of myself.

Are there any magic answers?

I’m afraid there’s no magic answer. What worked for me may not work for you but, whatever you do, ensure you do all you can to make blogging fun again.

Isn’t that the reason why you started a blog in the first place?

Take control of both your blog and your blogging habits and stop feeling guilty or apologising for not always being around. 

You may lose some followers along the way (don’t we all?), but it’s not going to finish you off as a blogger. And who cares if they lose a few followers along the way? It happens to all of us. 

In fact, some of those who do unfollow you probably don’t comment or read your blog posts anyway. Don’t worry about losing them. 

How to save yourself some extra time

Only read the blog posts that interest you. Avoid skimming blog posts, because it’s likely that you’re not enjoying reading them anyway. Save yourself some time and move on to the next post rather than read half a post and leave empty and meaningless comments on it.

Remember – Blogging is a marathon, not a sprint.

Never feel that you are obliged to read every single blog post of the blogs you follow. I don’t know any blogger who thinks that all their followers must read and comment on every new blog post they publish.

Never force yourself to read blog posts. If you don’t feel like reading or writing them, then don’t. Spend your time doing something else. Forcing yourself to do something you don’t want to do will only make you resent what you’re doing.

Are long posts worth reading? 

Of course, they are. Don’t be put off by the length of long blog posts. Just because they’ll take longer to read doesn’t mean they’re not going to be interesting.

You may believe you can use the time you would have spent reading a long blog post to read a handful of other shorter blog posts, but they may not be as interesting as the one you deleted because it was too long.

Take some breaks from blogging.

As a rule, for every hour I spend on my blog or reading blogs, I take a 20-minute break.

I always come back feeling refreshed.

If I don’t get around to reading all the new blog posts in my email box, then so be it. I don’t allow myself to feel guilty for not reading them. And I certainly do not feel guilty deleting those emails without having read them. Life’s too short to worry about that.

If you don’t want to blog, it’s perfectly fine. You don’t have to.

If like me, you decide to continue with blogging (and I hope you do), the passion you had for coming to the blogging world in the first place will grow and put you back on the right blogging track.

Let’s keep blogging fun and an enjoyable experience.

What about you?

  • Have you ever found yourself feeling guilty or stressed out because of blogging?
  • Are you somebody who keeps apologising because you’ve not been able to spend as much time as you like reading and commenting on posts?
  • What do you do to get over feeling guilty or stressed out by blogging?

Join the discussion by leaving me a comment that I can respond to with more than just a ‘thank you.’

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Why I Almost Gave Up Blogging – A Guest Post By Samantha Smith @sam50something

When I started blogging in January 2017, I thought it would be easy, I was wrong! I had no idea what was involved or should I say, how difficult I had made it.

A guest post by Sam Smith

I began by writing a blog post then paced the room after I’d hit the publish button while wondering how on earth I could delete it. Then something magical happened… I got my first ‘Like’. 

I remember beaming from ear to ear. Someone had read my initial blog post and actually bothered to press the ‘Like’ button. Not only that, but I began getting a few comments and followers. I was officially a Blogger!

So, what next? 

I read books on blogging, spent some money on courses and started to read, follow and interact with others. I was a happy blogger and loving it.

I only had a few followers and was only following a few others.

This meant I had the time to write and also read and enjoy other blogs, commenting and interacting, but I was about to hit a very steep learning curve; one which would lead me to feel anxious and guilty.

The Social Media bug

I’d set up my FaceBook page more or less as soon as I started blogging, which was easy enough as I already used FaceBook and knew how it worked. But then there was; Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn, Pinterest, YouTube, Flipboard and many more social media platforms, some of which I had never heard of, but apparently, ‘I was missing out if I didn’t join’ or so I read somewhere, so felt pressurised to set myself up on them all.

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I was also learning, ‘very slowly’ about the ‘admin’ side of my blog, (behind the scene’s), and this could also take a lot of time.

Follow for a follow?

I started gaining followers quite quickly, which was fantastic and so very exciting and, of course, started following many other bloggers, which meant more interaction – reading, liking and commenting.

It was ok at first. I was keeping up while also learning new things every day, but after a while, it was all beginning to get a little overwhelming. I was feeling anxious, in fact, worried about not keeping up and guilty that I didn’t have time to read other peoples’ blogs as well as interact.

I had so much to write about on my blog. The content has never been a problem for me, but ‘Time’ has.

It was getting to me. I could literally spend a whole day reading other peoples’ blogs and interacting on social media while beginning to lose focus on my own writing.

The light at the end of the tunnel.

I was only a few months in, and I nearly gave up. However, it was Hugh who gave me some great advice. I can’t particularly remember the exact words, but basically, he advised me to ‘take a step back, breathe and remember why I’d started blogging in the first place’. 

He made me realise that blogging should be enjoyable. If it was not, then something had to change.

Shortly after, he published a blog post that had a big impact on me.

‘IS NOW THE TIME FOR WORDPRESS TO REMOVE THE NUMBER OF ‘LIKES’ FROM VIEW ON ALL BLOG POSTS?’.  

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This hit home with me, as he explained how he’d felt that same ‘drowning’ feeling that I’d experienced. Hugh also explained how he had played the ‘click-happy like a game’, as he called it, which is liking a blog post without even reading it. 

Hands up – Guilty! Yes, I’ve been there, done that as I was going through my ‘stressed, can’t keep up, anxious stage’. Silly really, why ‘Like’ something which you haven’t read? For me it was simple, if I didn’t have time to read, then ‘Liking‘ would at least show some support, wouldn’t it? 

The number of ‘likes’, when I first started, was very important to me, but now it’s more about commenting and communicating.

When the fun and enjoyment returned.

I took Hugh’s advice and I am definitely more relaxed and enjoying my blog again.

I take my time with writing as I am not someone who writes every day. I feel good if I get four blog posts out a month, although I admire those who can write daily along with commenting and fully interacting on social media but have realised I am not one of those people. I have learnt to stop trying, and I now work at my own pace.

If I don’t have the time to be on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram etc. every day then so be it. I’ll get to it when I can.

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Three years in.

I’m into my third year now, and although I do still get a little anxious and overwhelmed, I have realised that I enjoy my blog.

I have put such a lot of hard work into it and have learnt that the blogging community is wonderful.

The first few years had its ups and downs, but I’m glad I didn’t give up. I have learnt such a lot and met interesting, helpful people, both in person and through the internet.  

There are some great bloggers out there, all of which, I’m sure, totally understand what I’m talking about and so will fully understand if it takes me a while to get to their blog posts or in fact, if I miss one.

I now read peoples’ blog posts when I can get to them. Yes, I may be a little late sometimes, but if I’m reading a blog post, then I will read it properly and leave a comment.

I may have a hectic life, but I am happy with it.

Are you feeling stressed, anxious or making yourself feel guilty about blogging?  

If I were to give one piece of advice to a new blogger who was feeling a little overwhelmed, it would be to listen to Hugh’s advice; Take a step back, breathe and remember why you started blogging in the first place. 


Blogger and writer Samatha Smith.

Photo © – Samantha Smith.

Bio: Samantha Smith

Hi, I’m Sam, and my blog is Loving the fifty something, which is about hitting midlife with positivity and living life to the full.

Along with my partner, Jon, two dogs and two cats, we live on a wide beamed canal barge in Yorkshire, UK. You can read more about our boat here

Photo © – Samantha Smith.

As well as barging about, we have a camper van called Polly in which we’ve had many adventures. We like to travel when we can, which usually involves certain activities such as walking, snowboarding or mountain biking. 

I hope that we can inspire others to make their midlife journey an adventure too.

Sam would love to connect with you here:

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My thanks to Sam for writing this guest post.

Have you ever been stressed out with blogging? How did you deal with it? Do you have any questions or comments for Sam? Please leave them in the comments box. She would love to hear from you. (No comments for Hugh, please).

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Let’s Keep Blogging Fun

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I’ve recently been reading some posts and messages on social media where people are asking for advice because blogging has got to the stage of stressing them out and/or making them feel guilty.

I’ve written about this subject before, and know exactly how these bloggers are feeling, having been through the whole blogging ‘feeling guilty’ trip, myself.

One of the reasons why I signed up for WordPress was because I thought blogging would be fun.

One year in, I found myself becoming very stressed and feeling guilty because I wasn’t able to keep up with reading all the new blog posts being published by the bloggers I was following.

Some days, I was finding myself doing little else but reading and leaving comments on blog posts. Some of the bloggers I was following were publishing more than a few blog posts a day, and I soon found myself apologising to people for not reading their posts or for not being on WordPress 24 hours a day!

Then it struck me that I was not doing the main thing that I’d come here to do – to write!

Now, although I do possess a few superpowers, I’m afraid that one of them is not being able to read every single new blog post from bloggers whom I follow.

I began to see this as a problem, and my blog was a monster that was doing everything it could to make me want to fight it.

Then, one morning, I woke up, switched on my computer and got that horrible feeling I would get when I didn’t want to go to school or go to work.

I soon realised that I had two choices about blogging. Either I gave it up, or I had to change the blogger I had become.

It didn’t take me long in making my choice. After all, I’d created my blog so that I could write and share my thoughts with anybody who stopped by and wanted to listen to what I had to say.

I decreased my reading time and began to write more.

I took some time to make a list of the people who were commenting on my blog posts and who were sharing my posts on social media.

I stopped following back every single blogger who followed my blog. If they didn’t have an ‘about me’ page, so I could find out more of who they were, or they blogged about subjects that did not interest me, then I passed on by.

As time went on, I began to unfollow bloggers whose blogs changed into the content I didn’t find interesting anymore.

I stopped reading blogs posts that did not interest me regardless of who had written and published them.

I unfollowed some bloggers who continued to fail to respond to questions or acknowledge comments other bloggers and I were leaving on posts.

I didn’t feel guilty about this because it was freeing up time for me; time which I could either spend writing or supporting those bloggers who took the time to read and comment on my posts.

If you find yourself in a situation where blogging is making you feel guilty and/or stressing you out, then you need to face the questions I was asking myself.

I’m afraid there’s no magic answer. What worked for me may not work for you but, whatever you do, ensure you do all you can to make blogging fun again.

Isn’t that the reason why you came here in the first place?

Take control of both your blog and your blogging habits and stop feeling guilty about not reading and commenting on every single blog post or unfollowing blogs that you no longer have any interest in.

Sure, you may lose some followers along the way (don’t we all?), but it’s not going to finish you off as a blogger.

In fact, most of those that do unfollow you probably don’t comment or read your blog posts anyway, so it’s no big deal (unless your only interest is as a ‘follower’ hunter).

If like me, you decide to stay (and I hope you do), the passion you had for coming here in the first place will come back and put you back on the right blogging track.

Have you ever found yourself feeling guilty or stressed out because of blogging?

Are you somebody who keeps apologising because you’ve not been able to spend as much time as you like reading and commenting on posts?

What did you do to get over feeling guilty or stressed out by blogging?

Leave me a comment and join in the debate.

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