What makes you put your head in your hands or shake your head regarding blogging?

Recently, I’ve been shaking my head a lot when visiting the blogging world.

Some of my fellow bloggers worry me, and I’m concerned about their mental health.

I’m witnessing bloggers panicking, stressed, feeling guilty, or apologising because of how they blog.

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Here are some of the bloggers I am referring to. Are you one of them?

The Sprinters

Have you heard this quote?

Blogging is a marathon, not a sprint!

It’s a quote many bloggers acknowledge.

Sprinters rush around the blogging world every day as if they’re on a time challenge where they must read and leave comments on as many blog posts as possible within a certain amount of time.

The comments they leave are seldom engaging and are often empty. Instead of leaving a comment saying why they thought a post was great or why they liked a photo or reading a piece of fiction, they’ll leave a comment like, ‘Great story’ or ‘I enjoyed this.’

They don’t have time to leave engaging comments, so leave comments that’ll not make you want to engage with them other than maybe to say ‘Thanks.’

If they fail to leave comments on all the blogs they’re following, they believe they may upset someone. They need to prove they’ve visited your post, often by leaving an empty comment.

They often show signs of stress or pressure in the content they publish and the comments they leave.

They won’t read long-engaging posts because that wastes time and worsens their stress. They’re on a mission to read as many posts as possible in the time they have so they don’t upset anyone.

Why read a couple of interesting, engaging, long posts when you can read lots of short blog posts in the time it takes to read one fascinating post over 1,000 words that gets you and lots of other readers wanting to get into a discussion?

When I saw the above tweet from James, I punched the air with my fist. He makes a valid point. And it doesn’t only apply to new bloggers.

Blogging should never be about sprinting under pressure around the blogging world to see how many blog posts you can read and comment on in 20 minutes!

Those posts will still be there next week.

There is no such thing as being behind in blogging. Read, respond and leave comments when you have the time to do so.

Hugh W. Roberts

Ask yourself why you started blogging. Was it for enjoyment and fun? Or did you come to the blogging world on a mission to try and break the world record every day for the number of blog posts you can read and comment on so you don’t feel guilty or upset anyone?

Is rushing around the blogging world, feeling stressed out while leaving the same non-engaging short comments, fun?

Slow down, and engage with bloggers rather than trying to prove the point that you have visited their posts.

If you don’t have the time to read and leave comments, make time by reading less blogs.

Hugh W. Roberts

This brings me to…

The obliging blogger

In the next paragraph, I’ll ask you a question. Leave your answer in the comments section before reading the rest of this post.

Question: If a blogger reads and leaves comments on all your blog posts, should you feel obliged to read and leave comments on all their posts?

You won’t be surprised that my answer to that question is ‘No.’

But if you answered ‘Yes’, share your reasons in the comments section.

Nobody should feel obliged to read and comment on another blogger’s posts because they read and leave comments on all their blog posts.

Your time is precious, and wasting it by forcing yourself to read and comment on content that does not interest you is a waste of your time.

“But won’t the blogger who reads and comments on all my posts stop reading and commenting on my blog posts if I don’t return the favour?’

Yes, they may, but does it matter? And if they do, ask yourself this question.

‘Why am I following that blogger?’

If it’s because you genuinely enjoy reading their content, then, by all means, continue to follow them, but don’t feel obliged to read and leave comments on all their posts.

If a blogger gets upset with you for not reading and leaving comments on all their posts, consider unfollowing them.

Allocate the time you spent reading their blogs to the blogs you enjoy reading, and leave valuable, engaging comments on those posts rather than short, empty, non-engaging comments.

Tip: Make the first comment count and show that you genuinely want to engage.

Don’t get too upset if the blogger you’re trying to engage with doesn’t want to engage with you when they respond to your comment with nothing but a ‘Thank you.’

That’s your cue to think twice before engaging with them again.

If you don’t want to engage with a blogger after reading a post, press the like button and move on. After all, that’s why it’s there.

There is nothing wrong with not leaving a comment after reading a blog post if you’ve nothing of value to add. Stop acting like it’s a crime not to leave one.

Hugh W. Roberts

Don’t be tricked into feeling guilty if you don’t always leave a comment. I read many blog posts where I do not click the ‘like’ button or leave comments. Why? Because I have nothing of value to add.

Likewise, never feel obliged to follow a blogger who has followed your blog. There’s no harm in visiting their blog to check out their content. If you like it, by all means, follow back, but don’t follow them simply because they followed you.

The desperate blogger

This blogger comes in two forms.

The first are bloggers you’ve never received comments from, and suddenly they’ll leave a comment and link on one of your posts that begs you (and your readers) to check out their blog, read their posts and leave comments.

I’ve received lots of these types of comments recently.

Their comment won’t mention anything about the contents of the posts they’ve left their comment on, just a few words of desperation and a link to their blog.

You’ll see them leaving the same comment on other blogs. I never approve these comments, so you’ll never see them in the comments section of any of my blog posts.

These types of comments are often left by new bloggers looking for new followers and readers.

If you’re new to blogging, there are much better ways to gain followers and new readers than to leave uninvited links on other blogs. These posts list some tips that will help you gain new followers and readers.

New To Blogging? These Free Tips On Leaving Comments Will Help Bring New Visitors To Your Blog

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The other type of desperate blogger is someone who has previously left some engaging comments but unexpectedly starts dropping links to their posts that have nothing to do with the content of your post, asking you to read and comment.

I’ve said this many times before. Other blogs are not places for you to leave links unless the host has invited you to leave them. For example, in my Wordless Wednesday posts, I invite bloggers to leave links to their Wordless Wednesday posts.

If you have a post you’d like to share with a blogger in the comments section because it’s connected to their post, ask for permission to leave the link first.

Many bloggers class uninvited links as spam and move comments that include them to the spam folder or bin.

How do you deal with uninvited links left in the comments section of your blog?

I edit them out before approving the comment by pressing the edit button.

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Click edit to edit out uninvited links from bloggers

Remember to save the changes and then approve the comment. Most bloggers leaving uninvited links soon get the message.

Let’s wrap it up

  • Never feel pressured to read and comment on too many blog posts when you don’t have the time.
  • Read and leave engaging comments on a few blog posts a day/week rather than try and read and leave empty, non-engaging comments on all the blog posts of those you follow.
  • Never feel obliged to follow a blog simply because they followed you.
  • Don’t force yourself or waste time reading blog posts that do not interest you. Instead, invest your time reading and engaging with bloggers who publish content that interests you.
  • It doesn’t matter if you don’t read a blog post today. It’ll still be there to read in a week or when you have more time.
  • Don’t feel guilty if you do not get around to reading all the blog posts you want to read and comment on.
  • If you have nothing of value to add in a comment, rather than leaving short, empty, non-engaging comments, click the ‘like’ button and move on.
  • Other blogs are not the place to leave uninvited links promoting your blog.
  • Edit out uninvited links before approving comments.
  • Remove any thoughts of thinking you’re behind with blogging and have to catch up. Read and comment on posts when you have the time to do so.

Are there any examples of blogging that have you holding your head in your hands, shaking your head or concerned for other bloggers? Please share them in the comments section.

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121 responses to “Is Blogging Causing You Stress Or Making You Feel Guilty? How To Fix It”

  1. Stuart Danker avatar

    Quality post. Always appreciate the comprehensive ones.

    I actually err on the side of networking rather than not, so if someone leaves a (read: thoughtful) comment on my blog, I’ll most probably return the favour.

    Gotta admit though, there was a time when I started feeling like it was a job, so I cut down on my networking, but it’s still an integral part to my blogging day-to-day (just like how I’m commenting on your fine post right now).

    To contrast this, I’ve also started a new blog under a pseudonym just to see if I can garner an audience through my writing alone. There, I never interact at all, except to reply to the comments on my blog.

    Only time will tell what the results will be, but I have to say that for now, networking should always be included for an optimal blogging experience.

    Of course, this doesn’t really relate to some points you made, like sprinters versus marathoners, but that’s up to us to find our own pace, amirite? Anyway, thanks for this post!

    1. Hugh W. Roberts avatar

      Hi Stuart, would you return a comment even if the blog published content did not intrtest you? I used to do that, but it became such a burden, and it wasn’t long before I was wasting so much time reading content that didn’t interest me. I also struggled with what to say, so I felt guilty if the comment didn’t seem engaging.

      I’d be very interested in hearing how your experiment goes with your new blog. Can you let me know?

      I agree that we should all blog at our own pace, but if it makes you feel stressed, guilty or obliged to force yourself to read content that does not interest you, then I think you need to step back and assess how you’re blogging.

      Thank you for joining the discussion.

      1. Stuart Danker avatar

        That’s actually a good point. In that case, I don’t reply, lol.

        Will definitely let you know how the second blog goes! Right now, all signs point to: networking is better than not.

  2. Oluwatobi avatar

    Am new here though how does the follow for follow work…
    Need help

    1. Hugh W. Roberts avatar

      Welcome to Hugh’s Views and News.

      Following a blog simply because they followed you doesn’t work. All it does is build up the number of blogs you follow, which can result in feeling overwhelmed trying to visit, read and comment on them. By all means, check out the blog, but if the content doesn’t interest you, don’t follow back.

      Unfortunately, some bloggers will unfollow you when you follow them, as it’s only about a numbers game to them.

      I hope that helps.

  3. Dan Antion avatar

    The short answer to your question is ‘No.’ The longer answer is that blogging and reading blogs should be an experience we enjoy, not an obligation. I have enough obligations. When I comment, I try to express my honest reaction. If I can’t say any more than “nice post,” I might just skip the comment. The exception is daily photographers. Sometimes, it’s hard to come up with more than “Beautiful photo.” But sometimes, that’s how I feel.

    1. Hugh W. Roberts avatar

      Thanks for adding to the discussion, Dan.

      I get what you mean with leaving comments on photography blogs. What I try and do is expand on what makes me want to say nice photo. if I can’t think of anything, then I click ‘like’ and move on. It’s no big deal to the majority of bloggers when that happens.

  4. Paul Ariss avatar
    Paul Ariss

    Thanks Hugh. All your posts are very useful to us, but reading some of the other comments this one has particularly.

    1. Hugh W. Roberts avatar

      The comments section can be as interesting as the post, especially when those comments are engaging and sincere, Paul.

  5. Paul Ariss avatar
    Paul Ariss

    I have gone through slight periods of guilt when not engaging with someone’s blog who regularly comment on mine, but usually this is because these are people who blog 2-3 times a week and it’s impossible to read every one, so I’ve got past the guilt now. I will usually park the blog and get back to it hopefully a few days later, or not, but I don’t worry about it anymore.

    And it’s interesting what you say about ‘liking’ a blog but not leaving a comment if you have nothing to add. This happens in normal conversation where we may nod in agreement but don’t necessarily have anything to add, which is fine. Liking a blog I suppose is the same as nodding in agreement, or just acknowledging what someone has said.

    1. Hugh W. Roberts avatar

      Just think about those who follow blogs that publish content every day, some several times a day, Paul. I’ve seen many readers become overwhelmed, believing they must visit and leave sincere comments on all those posts. It’s one of the reasons why I don’t follow those types of blogs.

      Good to hear you got over the worrying about not obliging in visiting and returning comments, especially if some blogs publish content that does not interest you.

      And I like your way of comparing the ‘like’ button to nodding in agreement, but you have nothing of value to add. That’s a perfect example.

  6. Eugenia avatar

    I struggle to make the rounds and read the blogs I follow and also leave sincere comments relating to their post. There is just not enough time in my day to keep up. I appreciate this post immensely and I’m going to change my approach starting today. Thank you, Hugh.

    1. Hugh W. Roberts avatar

      I’m so pleased this post has helped you, Eugenia. You can now get back to enjoying blogging and having fun instead of feeling guilty and stressed for not visiting all those blogs every day and leaving sincere comments.

      1. Eugenia avatar

        It’s a pleasure reading your blog, Hugh.

  7. Gary Kruse avatar

    Aiming to make my blog/website the central focus for people who like my work over the next couple of years, so some great advice here on growing blogs! Thanks Hugh!

    1. Hugh W. Roberts avatar

      I’m glad it has helped you and many others, Gary. Good luck with getting your blog and website to the position you want them. There’s a great writing community out there.

  8. Alessandra Chaves avatar

    There’s a group of people I often comment on their blogs and they comment on mine. It’s fun to reciprocate and the comments don’t always engage or add. Sometimes just sort of saying, I’ve been here and enjoyed it. I follow some bloggers who post often and just a picture or a quote, and others who post long elaborate texts. It takes all kinds. You can be short and engaging, also long and boring.
    Some of my followers will leave extensive comments that far outweigh my posts 😀 and leave me wondering why they haven’t made a post on the subject themselves. Food for thought. Thanks for the post.

    1. Hugh W. Roberts avatar

      Yes, food for thought. although in the days when another group of bloggers and I reciprocated non-engaging comments, the fun soon drained away for most of us until we realised we didn’t need to leave those short non-engaging comments just to prove we had visited. Why does anyone need to prove they’ve visited a blog post? Visit when you can. the majority of bloggers understand that we can’t visit all the time.

      I don’t think I’ve read long and boring comments because they generally talk about the post’s contents, ae engaging, and may ask questions or want to find out more.

      But I agree that engaging comments can spark ideas for new blog posts. In fact, I’ve got a lot of ideas for new posts from the comments sections of blogs. They can be a goldmine of ideas.

      And I get that some bloggers don’t want to engage with me or others when leaving engaging comments. In that case, I see it as a cue not to leave any more comments.

      Thank you for joining the discussion.

      1. Alessandra Chaves avatar

        “Why does anyone need to prove they’ve visited a blog post?” I think for a similar reason why you will pass someone on the street and say “good morning” or ask the cashier “how are you doing today?” even though you don’t particularly care if strangers have a good morning or don’t want to hear about the cashiers’ physical or emotional states.

        1. Hugh W. Roberts avatar

          I’m more inclined to use a bloggers’ about me page to leave general chit-chat. I’m not a fan of seeing lots of general chit-chats that have nothing to do with the contents of a post on blog posts. I can do that on Facebook or Twitter (providing they have accounts), But it’s good to have a different perspective because that is how good discussions often start on blog posts.

  9. Judith Barrow avatar

    All I can say, Hugh, is thank you. Time starved often, I read and feel the guilt because I don’t contribute to the discussion. It didn’t occur to me that I could return to a particular post. X

    1. Hugh W. Roberts avatar

      Time can be an enemy to all of us if we allow it to, Judith. Many bloggers feel guilty and feel obliged or stressed to read as many posts as possible, whereas many of us don’t mind if our readers miss or do not leave comments on all our posts.

      1. Judith Barrow avatar

        That helps, Hugh. Thanks. x

  10. Mthobisi Magagula avatar

    Great question Hugh and I agree no one is obliged to comment on others posts, time is short and precious so why waste yours

    I for one see blogging as a stress relive and I love it, when I am feeling happy I blog so it never stresses me not one bit🙏🙏

    1. Hugh W. Roberts avatar

      Good to hear that you see blogging as a stress release, Mthobisi. It should always be about enjoyment.

  11. Liesbet @ Roaming About avatar

    Hi Hugh, I’m back and have now read the rest of your post. Life got in the way in the middle of reading the post, imagine that! :)

    This post is extremely well written and touches on many issues we all seem to have at least once in a while. I nodded my head often.

    When I don’t have time to leave a comment or don’t have anything valuable to add, yet, I enjoyed reading a post, that’s when I click the “like” button. It shows the bloggers that I read their post, if they even keep an eye on their likes. But, it also makes me feel better as I don’t want to ignore a post that I enjoyed.

    I don’t moderate all comments, because I haven’t had the experience of a nice commenter turning into a troll. I only moderate the first comment a new reader leaves. I also have no problems (yet) with readers leaving empty comments or unrelated links to their blog. I think that’s because my blog is long not as popular and well-visited as yours. :-)

    1. Hugh W. Roberts avatar

      Hi Liesbet, thank you for returning to this post. Good to hear that you were nodding your head often while reading it.

      That’s precisely what the ‘like’ button is for, yet many bloggers seem to think they must do more to prove they’ve visited and go on to leave non-engaging comments that don’t benefit anyone.

      I hope those link droppers never visit your blog. Believe me when I say you’re better off not encountering them. They can sometimes make one feel very frustrated, which, of course, should not be allowed to happen.

      Thank you for adding your voice to the discussion.

  12. Terri Webster Schrandt avatar

    So many things I could add to this but most have been said, Hugh. I used to feel obligated to read every post but some folks post daily! I might be retired but I don’t have that kind of time. I get a few bloggers who link and run and don’t bother to even leave a comment for Sunday Stills. Possibly they don’t know the rules but one look at their blog site and there are few followers. Not sure why they are blogging at all. I used to be a big fan of the link parties and still do a couple but commenting and then sharing became a struggle since many I had already read before it got into the link-up. There is some etiquette to blogging. The ones that don’t follow that end up deleting their sites eventually. Always great info you share!

    1. Hugh W. Roberts avatar

      Those bloggers leaving a link and running miss out on so much, Terri. But that’s probably why you find their blogs in the condition they are. Unfortunately, I think it’s more of a numbers game for them. And number seekers generally don’t last long in the blogging world.

      In my eyes, leaving a link and running is like leaving an uninvited link with no mention of any of the content of the post they’re leaving it on.

      Thank you for adding your voice to this discussion.

  13. Michelle (Boomer Eco Crusader) avatar

    When I started blogging, I felt like I had to read and leave comments on every blog post of every blogger I followed. I don’t do that any more. Now, I just leave comments if I feel I have something useful to say. I also skip reading posts if the subject matter doesn’t interest me.

    1. Hugh W. Roberts avatar

      Sounds like you have it all wrapped up nicely, Michelle. Keep on with the enjoyment that blogging brings.

  14. JT Twissel avatar

    Oh dear, yes all of the above. I’ve given up trying to follow/comment everyone – especially as there are so many people who launch their blogs prematurely. It’s very irritating trying to reciprocate someone’s visit and find a site under construction!

    1. Hugh W. Roberts avatar

      That’s a good sign that you’ve given up trying to follow and leave comments on all the blogs you follow, but you need to eliminate any guilt you feel for doing so. Remember that blogging should be an enjoyable experience, not one that makes you feel guilty, stressed or obliged to read stuff that does not interest you.

  15. Erika avatar

    It took me a while but if you want to survive you cannot help it but cut down your blogging time without feeling guilty. The funny thing is that we grant it to others but not to ourselves. I am always grinning when someone apologizes that they did not reply earlier… I stopped telling them, it doesn’t matter… lol

    1. Hugh W. Roberts avatar

      ‘Sorry I’m late…” “Apologies this is late…’ “Sorry I haven’t posted in a while…’ – when I see any post or comment that starts with an apology, I cringe, Erika. It’s like they believe they have a big audience waiting for the post or a reply, and if they don’t reply straight away or publish on time, they’re going to upset many people.

      Sadly, I see bloggers who have been blogging for many years apologising for being ill or dealing with an emergency. Some things are far more important to deal with than having to publish a blog post or read and comment on blogs. Apologies are not needed.

      1. Erika avatar

        Yes, you nailed it, Hugh. I like to inform when I take a break but I would never ever apoligize. No once can judge what is going on in another person’s life and it is non of their business anysway. As you said, some take themselves just too serious.
        I just scheduled a post with some background information about my life. Our discussion came to my mind while writing it. I thought, shall I do it? I mean, there are some fellow bloggers who share each unintersting chit-chat and this is not what I want to do. But I felt like my followers shall see a bit of the current person behind the blog and so, I scheduled it… hehe.

        1. Hugh W. Roberts avatar

          Good for you, Erika.

          I did hesitate a few times before publishing this post. It was supposed to go out on Monday, then on Tuesday, but I caved in, believing it may upset a few bloggers. Then I turned the whole thing around and saw that the post would help many bloggers, so it got published yesterday. I need to abide by my own lessons.

          I look forward to reading your post.

          1. Erika avatar

            I know exactly what you mean and maybe it has offended some. But to be honest, you also strike a chord in many and probably help them to stop feeling guilty when they are not stressing themselves out to keep up with social media. I am glad you saw it that way too and published the post.
            I could not resist to touch on something in my post too that I cannot escape from when being on social media and following other bloggers. The only consequence is to unfollow them…

            1. Hugh W. Roberts avatar

              I’m looking forward to reading what you have to say, Erika. Bloggers will avoid talking about some subjects because they see them as taboo. They think it’ll end up losing them followers and readers if they say what is on their mind. But I enjoy writing about blogging as I see it, although I don’t mind anyone challenging my way of looking at things providing it’s done professionally and not in a nasty way.

            2. Erika avatar

              That is the important difference. Interactions and discussions are part of blogging and that is what opens the horizon a bit more again. So, yes, sometimes I hesitated publishing something but those were one of those posts where I got the most feedbacks and surprisingly only in positive ways.
              So, keep it up, Hugh. What you post is the reason I am following you 😊

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