What would you say to me if I told you that I disliked receiving gifts? I’m not talking about all gifts. I’m talking about the ones I consider to be a waste of money because they render as useless.

How To Completely Change Your Birthday

I think we’ve all had gifts we received for Christmas and birthdays and seen them as a waste of money. But before you start thinking how ungrateful I sound, hear me out, because I’ve had an idea which I hope many of you will join in with me.

Nobody likes wasting money, do they?

No! Especially when they’re on a tight budget.

What saddens me most is witnessing people spending money on unwanted gifts because they feel they have to buy you something. With so many people less fortunate in the world, wouldn’t that money be better spent helping those most in need?

For years, I’ve donated some of the unwanted gifts I’ve received to charity shops. Unfortunately, because of lockdown, some charity shops are no longer able to take donations because they’ve nowhere to store new stock.

So, how do you ask people politely to stop wasting their money on Christmas and birthday gifts you didn’t request?

Have you encountered this situation?

A few months, weeks, days, hours, minutes before your birthday or Christmas, you hear the words ‘What would you like for Christmas/ your birthday?‘ Because I loath replying or hearing the phrase ‘I don’t know,’ I alway have a list ready. However, I still don’t always get the items on my list and sometimes end up with something I’ll never use or which has me scratching my head as to why it was purchased.

I’m lucky. But you may not be as fortunate as me.

I’ve always been one of those people that if they like something, buys it. It hasn’t always been like that. Like many, I’d have to save up to buy some of those items. And as somebody who dislikes being fussed over, buying what I want when I need it works perfectly for me.

However, as I’ve grown older, I find it problematic telling people what I want for Christmas or my birthday.

Allow me, therefore, to reveal the idea at the beginning of this post, which solves my dilemma and will change your next birthday (if you join me in this challenge).

Get writing or asking.

I wrote an email to my family members asking them not to buy me birthday presents. Instead, I asked them to choose a charity and donate the money to them.

Some family members didn’t like this idea, saying I had to have something, while some said they’d instead give me money to donate to a charity of my choice.

But that wasn’t what I was asking them to do!

I kindly asked them to donate the money that they would spend on me to a charity of their choice. That way, I’d feel great about money going to be spent on me, instead going to charity. I hoped it would make them feel great for donating to a charity of their choice. After all, we all feel good when donating to charity, don’t we? I saw it as a win-win situation.

Don’t allow people to knock your idea back.

Although my idea didn’t seem to go down well initially, I did get my way.

My family got together, and the money earmarked for my birthday presents has been donated to the Llanhilleth Miners’ Institute Covid Response Food Pantry.

So not only will the donations help in setting this new charity up, it will also help with some of the costs to run the programme. That makes me feel so good.

I realise that not everyone will want the money spent on their birthday presents donated. So even if it’s just the money for one present, think of all the good it will do if some of you ask for birthday money to be donated to a charity.

When your next birthday comes around, think about asking at least one person to donate the money they would have spent on you, to a charity of their choice. Just think of all the good you’ll both be doing in helping those less fortunate than you. Not only that, but I guarantee it will make you both feel great too.

How to completely change your birthday.

If you want to completely change your birthday (or Christmas 2021), ask everyone who buys you a birthday and/or Christmas present to donate the money they’d spend on your gifts to a charity of their choice. That’s what I’ll be doing in December 2021.

Will you take up my Birthday challenge? How would you feel if somebody asked you to donate the money you would have spent on a birthday or Christmas gift to a charity? Let me know by leaving me a comment and join the discussion.

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46 responses to “How To Completely Change Your Birthday”

  1. BookerTalk avatar

    I tried to change our family’s practice one Christmas by asking that they buy from a charity shop. Went down like the proverbial lead balloon …..

    1. Hugh W. Roberts avatar

      I had the same reaction to buying birthday presents for me. However, I got my way with mine. Whether the rest of the family will follow in my footsteps remains to be seen. I hope they do.

  2. Liesbet @ Roaming About avatar

    It’s a great idea, Hugh. I’ve seen it pop up on Facebook, close to my birthday, where Facebook suggests I pick a charity of my choice, so friends could potentially donate to that charity for my birthday.

    But… as you know. We live in a van. Far, far away from family and friends. Birthday and Christmas gifts are not a part of our lives. We sometimes receive money from our parents for these special events and we buy camper parts or dog gear with it. Things we need. Or, we save it for a very rare eating out/take out occasion.

    I have a nephew who feels like you do. (I’d feel like this as well if I lived in a house in a normal world.) He doesn’t want people to spend money on him or to waste materials that destroy the environment. He wrote a letter to his family (Christmas is big in that part of the family): if they really wanted to give him something, to regift him something they had no use for or to donate something useful from their household to his to repurpose it.

    I hope you’ll have a lot of people following along with your idea as in most families too much goes to waste!

    1. Hugh W. Roberts avatar

      I love the way your nephew has gone with receiving gifts, Liesbet. It’s another bow to the arrow of getting people to stop wasting money on items that are not wanted and which only gather dust. I dread to think what portion of these gifts end up in landfill sites.

      I hope my idea takes off. I’ll certainly be doing this again when Christmas 2021 arrives. And I won’t be taking ‘no’ for an answer from any member of the family. And if they do buy me anything, I’ll simply return it to them.

  3. Mr. Ohh's Sideways View avatar

    I love this post I already do it. Not so much for Christmas But for my birthday every year I ask people to donate to the Alpha-1 Foundation. This is a genetic disease that destroys the liver and the lungs and is very near to my heart. If you want to know more here is the link https://www.alpha1.org/

    Laugh On

    1. Hugh W. Roberts avatar

      Thank you for letting me know about the Alpha-1 Foundation and asking people who give you birthday gifts to donate to the charity instead. I hope my post will persuade many more of us to think about birthday gift donations to a charity.

      1. Mr. Ohh's Sideways View avatar

        I hope so There so many great causes

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