49 Days In 1988: Week 35 – The Battle For Me

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London – September 3rd, 1988

While Nigel was away in Newcastle, I missed him a great deal. I could have certainly done with him being here so I could have shared my ongoing accommodation problems with him. It was great, therefore, to have finally caught up with him today. And what a shock I got when he asked me to move in with him!

Of course, I told Nigel that Rod and Simon have asked me to move in with them once they find a place. Now there will be three of us, it makes looking for somewhere a bit more easier for them. What I didn’t expect, however, was the somewhat sour look I got from Nigel when I’d told him that Rod and Simon had asked me if I’d be interested in sharing a house with them.

To add insult to injury, I wasn’t expecting to get a call from a very upset Simon this evening. It seems that I have now become a ‘piggy in the middle’ battle after Nigel contacted Simon and told him to lay off from inviting me to share a house with him and Rod.

This was not something I was expecting. Nor do I want to upset either party but, between them, Nigel, Simon and Rod seem to have made my future accommodation problems even worse than I thought they could get.

Do I now walk away from both parties, or should I make a choice and face the possibility of upsetting somebody? Grief! What does one do?

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Welcome to this new feature for 2018 on Hugh’s Views and News. In this feature, I’ll be sharing snippets from my diary of 1988. We’ll also take a trip in Hugh’s Music Time machine to hear some songs from the 1980s which have been chosen by some specially invited guests.

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Poet, writer and blogger, Ritu Bhathal

This week my guest is the poet, writer and blogger, Ritu Bhathal.

Well known throughout the world of blogging, Ritu is somebody whom I’ve had the pleasure of meeting several times after attending The Bloggers Bash over the last three years. She’s as bubbly in person as she is on her blog, and is one of the nicest people I’ve ever encountered during my life.

Click here to meet Ritu on the ‘Meet The Bloggers Who Attended The 2018 Bloggers Bash’ video.

Born in Birmingham in the mid-1970’s to migrant parents, hailing from Kenya but with Indian origin, Ritu’s joy of reading spurred her on to become creative in her own writing, from fiction to poetry.

From childhood, she’s always enjoyed reading. This love of books is mostly credited to her mother. Winning little writing competitions at school and locally gave her the encouragement to continue writing.

As a wife, mother, daughter, sister, and teacher, Ritu has drawn on inspiration from many avenues to create the poems that she writes.

Now working as a qualified teacher, Ritu studied at Kingston University. She now deals with classes of children as a sideline to her writing!

Ritu’s blog is a mixture of life and creativity, thoughts and opinions, and was awarded first place in the Best Overall Blog Category at the 2017 Annual Bloggers Bash Awards.

Ritu now lives in Kent with her husband, two children, and not forgetting the furbaby Sonu Singh.

Having published an anthology of poetry, Poetic RITUals, she is currently working on some short stories, and a novel, to be published in the near future.

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Ritu’s song choice is Push It by Salt-N- Pepa.

Released in 1987, Push It is rather unusual. When the song was originally released, it was as the B-side to the single ‘Tramp.’ However, Push It proved more popular and as it started getting lots more airplay on the radio, was eventually released as an A-side single in 1988.

It became a number one hit in both Belguim and Holland, whilst it peaked at number two on the UK charts, and at number 19 on the Billboard Hot 100.

Rather than being pushed, it seemed I was more likely being pulled in two different directions in September 1988.  Do you have a favourite song connected to direction? Share a link to it in the comments.

Next week, when the situation at Grassmere Road becomes even more traumatic, a quick decision is called for. But will it upset anybody and cause any friendships to end? Click here to find out.

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  1. Three is a crowd Hugh. What would I do. I think after so much drama I’d move on my own, lol. And awesome song choice from Ritu, brings back good memories of the good old days. 😉 xxx

    1. I’ve no idea why I never thought about not making a choice between the two parties, Debby. I suppose I didn’t want to face the fact that I could have ended up upsetting both parties. Thank goodness I don’t worry about this kind of stuff anymore. Life’s too short. 😀

  2. Now this is upsetting to read, Hugh, how can your friends insist on meddling in your life and making decisions for you? Being caught in the middle is a huge source of stress for nice people! Hoping to read a good outcome soon! So great to see Ritu here, hi Ritu!! I hadn’t heard that particular song, but I couldn’t pick a Salt & Pepa song out of a crowd anyway. Always enjoy reading your journal entries and seeing your guests, Hugh!

    1. I know, exactly, Terri. It wasn’t a very nice situation to be in. I’ve found myself in this kind of position a few times. Next week, we’ll find out what choice I made and how it all worked out. Being popular is great, but not all of the time.
      Thanks for being one of my recent guests here, Terri. I’m glad I started this feature. It’s been great having you all feature, and I’ve loved the wide choice in songs you’ve all chosen.

  3. You have a decision to make, Hugh. I wonder what you will decide. It’s not fun being caught in the middle, and I don’t think Nigel was acting very fairly.
    It was great to meet Ritu here on your blog. Her music choice was unfamiliar to me. That’s another good thing about your series – the variety of music as well as writers. I’m enjoying it.

    1. I’m glad you’re enjoying all the music choices, Norah. There have been some I’ve not heard before and which I’ve instantly liked. I’ve also enjoyed hearing about some of the memories that the song choices have bought back to people. Music seems to be a key that can unlock many memories.

      I think just about everyone likes to be popular at some stages of their lives, but it can also work against us. I’ve never liked hurting anyone’s feelings, especially when there seems to be no way out of it for me.

  4. Oh, dear, it all sounds very stressful. It’s horrible being stuck in the middle like that. Looking forward to seeing how it gets resolved – or does it? Love Ritu’s song choice which I have to admit I’ve never heard before.

    1. I think it did stress me out at the time, Mary. It’s a horrible situation to be in, especially because you don’t want to upset anyone. Next week, we’ll find out what choice I made and whether I upset anyone in the process.

  5. Pulled in two directions, with a need to please – what a dilemma, Hugh! This is the price you pay when you are one of the cool kids. Lovely to see Ritu on your site. She has a beautiful smile and her popularity is legendary. Definitely one of the cool kids in the blogging world. 😉

  6. Oh dear you were in the middle weren’t you?! It wasn’t a nice thing Nigel did though, in my opinion, in warning Simon off. I hope things worked out 😊 Great to see Ritu here, I didn’t know you were writing short stories Ritu, I look forward to reading 😀👍

    1. I agree, Sam. However, I think Nigel acted like that towards Simon because I’d set them up on a date a few months earlier. Of course, it didn’t go well, but no need to take it out on the innocent party.
      We’ll find out the outcome next week.

  7. Ritu, I think I channeled you today. For some odd reason, I was singing that very same Salt-N-Pepa song all afternoon LOL Love what you said about your mum and reading. Kudos to you for embracing it<3

  8. Thanks for having our lovely Ritu as your guest today, Hugh!
    Hi, sis! I like your song choice. I almost can’t believe it but I never heard that song before. Thanks for sharing 👍

        1. We were in California then. I had five kids (Ron’s two, and my three). I know I was going to college and trying to cope with life in general. Seems like another lifetime doesn’t it? ❤

    1. lol, I’d have said the same thing about my life before actually reading this dairy from 1988, Robbie. Life may have seemed boring, but readers may take a different view. I’d never have thought anybody would have found my diary snippets interesting, but it seems many now want the series to feature in a book. We’ll see.

  9. One might think it’s a good problem to have: being so popular. But, in your situation, I’d have a hard time choosing with whom to live as well. Unless, of course, you already have a favorite roommate in mind. Deep in your heart, you probably had one, right? I’m curious how you got yourself out of this pickle, Hugh!

    Nice to learn a bit more about the famous Ritu; she’s quite the writer and blogger! I love the title of her poetry collection. “Poetic RITUals” – smart and creative! And, I do remember the song “Push It”. I forgot it made number 1 in the Belgian charts back then.

    1. Yes, I agree, Liesbet. It can be great being the popular one, but sometimes being popular isn’t all that it’s supposed to be. I can’t remember, but I don’t think I had either party in mind when this situation arose. Next week, we’ll find out what choice I made, along with any repercussions.

  10. Oh, Hugh!
    Firstly, you know my song, it’s in the post!
    Secondly, Oh my what a pickle you’re in, and not of your own making!
    And thirdly, THANK YOU! Always love to be a guest on your blog! ❤

  11. Hi Hugh,
    Ahh, the little princess got herself in a tough one. What I remember, you always wanted Nigel to yourself. Maybe—just maybe? 😳

    I’m not a poetry fan, but I’ve had the privilege of Ritu following and supporting my blog site. I also follow Ritu’s blog. It’s nice to see all of the individuals promoted.

    Here’s a hit from 1988 (I think)

  12. Hi Hugh. I couldn’t help chuckling a little. This is a delightfully written diary entry. You went from famine to feast… and it seems you were to be the feast. 🙂
    I realize it was an awkward and stressful situation though. Looking forward to seeing how it worked out.

    It’s lovely to learn a little more about Ritu. Hugs to you both.

    1. Nicely put, Teagan. Yes, situations like these are always difficult to handle and can force us to make choices we don’t want to make. I guess it’s not always good to be popular. 😀

      We’ll find out the outcome next week.

      Hugs to you.

  13. It is always difficult when you get stuck in the middle like that. Seems a bit of a predicament. I do hope it all comes out right eventually. Nice to see Ritu here. I love her blog.

    1. I’ve found myself in situations like this at various times during my life. Not wanting to upset anybody, this situation can often affect the person who finds themselves in the middle a lot worse than those on either side. I now look at situations like these as a puzzle and finding the best solution.

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