49 Days In 1988: Week 29 – Wrong Signals

Click here to read the first week of this feature, and follow the links at the end of each post.


London – August 2nd, 1988

Oh dear! I’ve got myself into a strange situation at work. It looks as if a work colleague by the name of Julie has fallen for me. I’m not really sure whether she knows I’m gay, but we talked quite at length tonight at the after sales party where she told me she is splitting up from a longterm relationship.

She may have just picked me to dump her problems on, but I got myself heavily involved in her problems and ended up asking her out one evening next week after work so we can talk more about her problems. I thought it would cheer her up a little in not feeling neglected. Of course, she could see me as a great help in getting over these problems, and I’d like to think that was the case, but it was the way she looked at me and ran her hands up and down the inside of my thigh that made me think she was looking for more than sympathy. It was such an awkward situation.

My goodness, this is going to be a tough one to sort out. Do I tell her that I am gay and face the prospect of making her world even more unhappy, or should I say nothing and keep my fingers crossed that she does know I am gay and that I’m not the rebound she may be seeking? 

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Welcome to this new feature for 2018 on Hugh’s Views and News. In this feature, I’ll be sharing snippets from my diary of 1988. We’ll also take a trip in Hugh’s Music Time machine to hear some songs from the 1980s which have been chosen by some specially invited guests.

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Blogger and writer Donna Connolly

This week, my guest is blogger Donna Connolly from Retirement Reflections. Donna has previously taken a trip on our Time Machine and guest hosted here.

This summer, Donna celebrated her third anniversary of retirement. Prior to retirement, she lived and worked in Beijing, China for fourteen years as a Middle School Principal then Deputy Director at The Western Academy of Beijing). Leaving international life behind, Donna and her husband retired to Vancouver Island. To document this transition, the blog ‘Retirement Reflections’ was born. Along with her reflections on retirement, Donna’s blog covers topics of Trying New Things, Home Exchanging, Hiking the Camino Trail…to name just a few. Her favourite part of blogging is the interaction with others.

You can connect with Donna in the comment section at the end of this post, or via the following social media sites. She would love to hear from you –




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When I initially asked selected readers to send in a song title from the 1980’s, plus any date of their choosing, Donna immediately emailed me back, “Song: George Harrison’s 1987 cover ‘I’ve Got My Mind Set On You.’ Date: August 2.”

This song was originally recorded by James Ray in 1962. Harrison’s cover currently stands as the last number one hit of any of the Beatles. Harrison released two music video versions of this song. The second version received significant airplay and was nominated for three MTV Video Music Awards.

For a bit of extra trivia, a parody of this cover was recorded by Weird Al Yankovich on his 1988 ‘Even Worse’ album.

For Donna, there is a deep connection between the song and the date that she suggested. In late 1987, Donna discovered that she was expecting her first child…only to be told by doctors that they believed she would lose this baby. Harrison’s cover became her theme song. Her son was born, without complications, on August 2, 1988. Happy Birthday, Creighton!

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Donna with her son Creighton

For the past six weeks, Donna has been on a summer blogging break. I am pleased that she has planned to end her break with the release of this post. Welcome back, Donna!

Back in early August 1988, it looked as if Julie very much had her mind set on me. Do you have a favourite song that has a connection to unwanted attention? Share a link to it in the comments.

Next week, an unexpected offer of help, after a few very traumatic days, comes to the rescue. Click here to find out what it was.

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  1. An interesting turn of events- interest from your co-worker, Julie. From a girl’s point of view I can see how that mistake might happen- not that I would ever run my hand up and down a guy’s thigh! lol

  2. It is amazing the way songs can hold so much meaning and take you back to a previous time in your life. I am so glad that your pregnancy resulted in the birth of Creighton, Donna. And congrats on his new position in the UK.


  3. I think that every gay person at some point or another goes through this experience of having the other sex being attracted or falling in love with them, despite the (obvious) signs of being gay. As always, I’m curious how you will find a way out of this one, Hugh. 🙂

    So nice to see Donna here, and what a personal song choice and date. Happy birthday to the energetic and fit Creighton! And, such good timing for this guest post, Donna. I hope you had a welcome and amazing blogging break. My turn to leave the internet for a bit next.

    1. Julie found my way out for me, Liesbet. She apologised for her actions the following morning. It got me out of a rather hole I’d dug myself.

      Have a splendid blogging break. Every second of them is worth savouring.

  4. Oh complications!! You’re a nice fella Hugh there to help, I’m sure she understood 😊 welcome back indeed to Donna, I’ve been following her for a while now. Such a lovely blog 😊

  5. Oh I can see how Julie would fall for you, Hugh! You are a good listener and so cute and sweet.
    Nice to meet Donna. Hope you are enjoying your retirement. Working in Zvhina must have been quite an experience. Happy belated birthday to Creighton!

  6. It seems that Julie’s gaydar was disabled by one too many drinks, Hugh. But how seductive is an attentive, concerned man to a woman in distress? Glad it all worked out without too much embarrassment. How wonderful that you’re featuring Donna today! She is a wonderful blogger and so generous to others. Welcome back, Donna. Love the meaning behind your song. What a treasure your son is!

    1. I was very fortunate that I didn’t have to do anything to get myself out of this awkward situation, Molly. I fully believe in a phase ‘being in the wrong place at the right time.’ It’s somewhere I’ve found myself a few times.

    2. Hi, Molly – Thanks for stopping by and for your kind words. For an extra-special 30th birthday present, Creighton found out that he got the job that he applied for as Lecturer (Human Geography/Urban Studies) at the Lincoln University in the UK. A great day all round!

  7. What a dilemma. I think you were reincarnated as Ann Landers, lol. I’m curious to know what you did do. If it were me, I might have tried not to burst her balloon anymore and just gave her the ear she needed and let her know, the last thing she needed now was another relationship. 🙂 ❤ And great song choice from Donna 🙂

    1. I had to look Ann Landers up, Debby. I see what you mean. 😂

      Fortunately, the following morning, red-faced and apologetic, I didn’t need to take an action when Julie apologised for her actions. Phew! Close call, but I was relieved.

      1. Lol, was that after the alcohol wore off? 🙂 And funny, after I hit send, it dawned on me that you may not have been aware of Ann Landers and Dear Abbey. Those columns piqued my first interest in writing when I was a kid. 🙂 xxx

        1. We have had similar ‘Ann Landers’ over here – Marjorie Proops was a well known ‘agony aunt’ from the 1970s and 1980s. ‘Dear Marj’ was her slogan. I think people actually got paid if their problem was published in the newspaper and answered by Marj.

          So nice to know where your interest in writing came from, Debby. That would make an excellent read.

        2. Thanks for sharing ‘Dear Marj’,. Hugh. Happy to share that with you, and perhaps I might consider writing about it too. 🙂 xx

  8. Welcome back from your break and great choice of song, Donna! A wonderful ending with the birth of Creighton. Happy birthday to him! Thanks, Hugh, for hosting Donna.

  9. What a great song and how cool that was Donna’s theme for her pregnancy! Positive thinking goes a long way, even for a a mixed up woman needing to talk to a stand-up guy like yourself. Glad she was able to take her mind off of you 😉 Also checking out that link for mix…how do you like it so far?

    1. I’ve followed you over on Mix, Terri. It’s still early days for the new social media platform. I like their set up. Far friendlier and easier to use than StumbleUpon. They are still developing the platform. I’ve already seen a lot of improvements coming through. I’ve also been in touch with them. They seem a nice bunch of people. 😎

        1. I don’t believe there’re any penalties for uploading own content to Flipboard, Terri. In fact, I upload all my content to Flipboard. It was StumbleUpon which had penalties for uploading own content. I believe Reddit also has the same penalties, although I’ve always found that social media platform very unfriendly.

  10. I’m glad George’s song was a good message for Donna. Whenever I hear a song by one of the Beatles on the radio I know it’s going to be a good day. I have had crushes on gay guys which grew into friendships.

  11. Great song selection Donna. Anything the Beatles before or after did is great.

    Now Hugh (Princess), you slipped out of what could have been a nasty situation. What would you do if she…? OH MY! 😎

  12. This is a great song, Hugh. I hope you did tell that poor girl that you were gay. Women are not always astute about that sort of thing.

  13. It’s funny how things turn out. I’m sure she was very embarrassed the next day. I have always loved that George Harrison song. Love the picture of Donna and her miracle baby!!

        1. lol, I never saw it as interesting back then, Donna. However, reading back, it does seem as if something was always going on in my life. I don’t know how I made it through 1988.
          Thank you so much for being my guest onboard the music time machine this week.

  14. I nhope you face up to the problem and told her straight out! I am sure you did because you are such a lovely and honest guy!
    Well done Donna on believing in Crieghton … Mums know best. Brilliant song choice and I also love the spoof cover!! 💜💜💜

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