49 Days In 1988: Week 23 – Friends In Need

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London – July 7th, 1988

I managed to finish my late night at work yesterday by 7:15pm and was home to catch in on the celebrations of Marty’s birthday party. It went well, although Marcus wasn’t there. I went looking for him in the house and found him sat alone in his room. He told me that he was going to go to the party, but I wasn’t so sure. I literally had to drag him to come and join in the celebrations. Once he got there he seemed to relax and forget about his problems. I last saw him being chatted up by a rather lovely looking ‘Daddy.’ 

I got a surprise phone call this evening from Jamie. He told me he’s been keeping himself low and off radar over the last couple of weeks and now seems to be over the worse with the spilt from his boyfriend. He told me he’s finally come to terms with the fact that the relationship is over. I think he’s at last cracking through that awful barrier that he had built up around himself. We talked about meeting up for a drink and a chat but didn’t arrange a date. Hopefully, it will be soon. For the time being, we’ve agreed to stay in touch. I will give him a call towards the end of next week. After all, he’s in need of a shoulder to cry on.

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Welcome to this new feature for 2018 on Hugh’s Views and News. In this feature, I’ll be sharing snippets from my diary of 1988. We’ll also take a trip in Hugh’s Music Time machine to hear some songs from the 1980s which have been chosen by some specially invited guests.

#authors #author #books #travel #memoirsThis week my guest is the author, writer, and blogger, Debby Kaye. Debby and I connected in blogland a few years ago, and she’s one of my most loyal supporters in always reading and commenting on my posts. We often exchange emails, and I’ve become one of her most prominent fans. Her writing is always very engaging, and she goes out of her way to help other writers and bloggers with the writing, publishing and blogging advice she offers. She’s a very busy writer but never fails to give support and encourage to her writing community.

Debby was born and resides in Toronto, Canada. When she’s not writing, she’s reading. Her favourite genres of reading are biographies, memoirs, writing and natural health. She loves to read about people who overcome adversity, victories and redemption and believes we have to keep learning -there is always room for improvement! She loves to cook, travel, and play poker (when she gets the chance).

#books #marriage #relationships #memoirsDebby’s most recent book is Twenty Years: After “I Do. In this personal accounting, she shares the insights and wisdom she has accrued through twenty years of keeping her marriage strong and thriving despite the everyday changes and challenges of ageing. Debby reveals how a little creative planning, acceptance, and unconditional love can create a bond no obstacle will break.

Debby’s stories are informative, inspiring, and a testament to love eclipsing all when two people understand, respect, and honour their vows. She adds that a daily sprinkling of laughter is a staple in nourishing a healthy marriage. Twenty years began with a promise. As Debby recounts what transpired within that time, she shows that true love has no limits, even when one spouse ages ahead of the other.

Click here to buy Twenty Years: After “I Do.

One of Debby’s other books P.S. I Forgive You: A Broken Legacy was my book recommendation of the month in April 2017. Click here to read the post.

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Debby”s song choice is Holiday by Madonna.

Released in 1983, Holiday became Madonna’s first mainstream hit single in the U.S.A, where it peaked at number 16. It also became her first top ten hit in many countries around the world, peaking at number 2 in both Ireland and the UK. The video features Madonna brother as one of the dancers. Thank you for the seasonal song choice, Debby.

It looks as if our ‘holiday’ away from each other was about to come to an end for both Jamie and me in July 1988. Do you have a favourite song that’s connected to a holiday? Share a link to it in the comments.

Next week, somebody from my past re-enters my life and tells me he’s on the run! Will I come to his rescue? Click here to find out.

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  1. Hi Hugh! Lovely to see Debby featured in your diary series. I can see you were the same lovely friend then that you are today 🙂 Perfect song choice by Debby, especially now with her excellent travel posts featured over at Sally’s blog column. Please forgive me for my lack of visits. Hope you got my email Hugh, and you’re enjoying our glorious summer, as I’m sure you are! Hugs xxx

    1. Aww, thanks so much, Sherri. Friendship has always been a very big part of my life. Where would we be without them?
      I hope your writing is going well. I bet Mike and you are looking forward to your upcoming holiday. 🍹 Have a wonderful time. 🌞
      Hugs to you both

      1. Yes, we need our friends most definitely. And you are such a lovely friend to so many (me too!). Plugging away, thanks Hugh, but not so much this week getting ready for my nephew’s wedding and then off to Italy! We can’t wait. Thanks so much, I’ll raise a glass or two (okay, the whole bottle, why not?) of Prosecco to you while there. If no Prosecco in Italy, then where? Big hugs right back to you Hugh, and see you soon! 🙂 ❤ xxx

  2. Nice to meet up with Debby here on your blog, Hugh. I always enjoy Debby’s writing and she is a wonderful supporter of other bloggers and writers, as are you. I enjoyed her choice of song. It makes me want to go on holiday. 🙂

  3. Great to see you here, Debby and fantastic choice of song, we were listening to it the other day. Thanks, Hugh for this feature. I love the song choices and whats happening in the diary.

  4. Lovely to see Debs here and what an apt song choice for you Debs….I have sung that song a few times at the top of my voice over the years…I love sitting on the dock of the bay as I love to just sit and watch and dream when I find a calm place…Lovin this series Hugh …😀

      1. Happy Pride Month, Hugh. Yesterday’s celebration in San Francisco was on the theme of strength across generations and I thought of your 49 days in 1988 as I watched the young people enjoy their day in the Sun.

        1. That’s lovely to hear, Rob. I hope you and everyone else had a great day. I remember being in those pride marches, although things were a lot more difficult for Gay people back then. I enjoyed the marches etc, and we got some fantastic results. Still a lot of work to be done, though.

        2. I’ve carried a sense of emotional weight this month and I realized it was the
          emotional weight I had learned to carry as a kid in the world before Stonewall.

          That weight lifted with the 2014 Supreme Court Decision Affirming Same Sex

          Now it’s back.

          It is sad to think we have to fight all of these battles again.

        3. It is, Rob, but we must stay strong and speak up for what we believe in. Some will always try and spread hatred and anger towards others, but love will always conquer. 🌈

          The path of life is always full of twists and turns.
          But the path that is paved with love always leads to happiness.

  5. Great to see Debby here and love the song. Sometimes we can’t do the right thing by others, Hugh no matter how hard we try, but we must do what we think is right, I guess. Thanks for this great series and for sharing those memories.

    1. Hi Olga, thanks for dropping by, and you’re right, sometimes we can’t do right. As they say – You can lead a horse to water ,. . . 🙂 x

  6. I’m happy Jamie is back in your life of 1988, Hugh. I think you’ve both missed each other. 🙂

    And, how lovely Debby is your guest this week. I immensely respect and like this lady, who is a smart, witty, genuine, encouraging, helpful and successful writer. Great song (and artist) choice, my friend!

  7. I hope you and Jamie eventually got together, Hugh. Great to see Debby here and love the song choice. I’d have expected nothing less invigorating! Best of luck with the new book, my friend ❤️

    1. We’ll find out later in the series, Tina. It was a little like a cat and mouse game between us.
      I’m working on the book, although still a lot to do. Some of the stories have been completely rewritten from how they first appeared on my blog. Lots of brand-new stuff as well. 😀

  8. Love Debby’s Madonna choice. I totally missed it when it first came out as I was working in Afghanistan and have a huge cultural black hole of music and films released during that time. I’m catching up though. I enjoyed your teaser for next week – intriguing!

  9. Oh, Hugh I forgot to mention. I shared this in my blogging group on FB and had a few comments from friends who tried to hop over here and said they had a difficult time reading because of the small reading window. The problem is still persisting it seems because I too must look through a small window with your header/menu following me all the way down. And you aren’t alone, I’ve noticed this still on a few blogs. 😦

    1. I’ve an upcoming post about the problem some of you have experienced with reading my blog, Debby. It seems it’s only a very small number of readers who are experiencing the problem. I’ve had lengthy discussions about it with WordPress and even done some of my own testings. It seems the problem lays with the devices and software being used to read my blog, rather than with the blog itself. I’ll tell the full story in the post (which I’ll be publishing next week).

  10. Hugh… What is going on?! Things just never quite seem to fall into place!
    I love the song choice!
    Liking Willow’s too…
    For me childhood holidays were always in Kenya so this non pop song is what takes me back…

    1. What a jolly song choice, Ritu. Never heard it before, but it makes such a great summer anthem.
      As for what was going on in 1988. I think it was called ‘full-swing life.’ I enjoyed every moment, though.

  11. Hugh, first of all, thank you for inviting me to be a part of your 49 Days series, and thank you for the lovely introduction here. You may be a prominent fan, but you are also a prominent friend. 🙂 Thanks for allowing me to share one of my most favorite songs that reminds me about my disco days when I’d be sitting with a girlfriend sipping on white wine at a club and the DJ would play this song, I was up on my feet in a flash! This song always makes me smile ❤
    Now, back to 1988 – It seems to me you were the 'fixer', and perhaps one with hopeful intentions? LOL
    Thanks again for having me over. I will reblog this next week! I like to give a blog post time to marinate where it's first posted then bring it fresh eyes a few days later. ❤ xx

    1. Thank you for sharing that memory from your disco days, Debby. Music can bring back so many wonderful memories. Like Madonna, I bet you can still dance as good as you did back then. In my days as a parttime D.J, I loved filling those dance floors with my choice of music and remixing. Fabulous days.
      And I’m with you on the marinating (love that word) of blog posts and learned quickly that reblogging posts on the same day as they are published doesn’t work near anywhere as better than when you reblog at least five days after the post was published. That’s another great blogging tip, but let’s keep that to ourselves, shall we? 😉

      1. Lol, we shall! Thanks again Hugh. And I didn’t know you were once a D.J. but it sure makes a lot of sense now with all the knowledge you’ve gathered about some of the artist you share tidbits with us about when you share songs. I have no doubts you knew how to fill up a dance floor. And ya, well, I still got a few moves yet! Lol 🙂 ❤

  12. How apt to title your post with “friends, as I see Debby as a wonderful blogging friend, who like you said, Hugh, is a loyal commenter and sharer of others’ posts! And a talented writer to boot! And of course, your true friendship shines through in this post as you describe the relationship building you do with your friends. I found this very uplifting and positive to read today! Thanks!

    1. Thank you for all those lovely words, Terri. It’s amazing how friendships can build up over the web. There may be thousands of miles between those friendships, but the support we give each other makes it feel as if we’re all living in the same neighbourhood.
      I’m glad today’s snippet from my diary gave you a lift. That’s another lovely compliment. Thank you.

  13. I love your diary stories, Hugh! A series that keeps me glued. And you featured Debbie today, how nice! That book sounds beautiful. What a blessing and gift it is to be in a marriage for 20 years and still standing strong. We are in our 25th year but won’t celebrate anything this year… too much happened and did not happen. It always needs both. Anyway, I still believe in a lifelong love and Debbie’s book is a wonderful proof.

    1. Thank you, Erika. Those little snippets hide so much of what was really going on,
      Congratulations on your upcoming 25th anniversary. Sorry to hear you won’t be celebrating it, though. 1993 was also the year I met my partner, John.
      I hope you enjoy Debby’s book if you decide to read it.

      1. No, we won’t. We haven’t celebrated the last two anniversaries either… we are separated for a year now. I am actually glad that I finally found the courage to do so… I am sorry, it goes in a different direction than you expected. But I am better now.
        As I said, I believe in life-long love but at the moment I am not in the mood of reading about this subject… lol

  14. Oh! Hugh I want to shake things up and get them sorted for you!!
    Great song choice Debbie.💜
    In 1986 we had a family holiday to Malta our youngest was 3yrs the other two were 11 and 13 yrs. We stayed at a nice hotel with a few strange quirks! A lift that went up to an unfinished floor open to the sky and no railings. The two older boys keep trying to go up there and play!!!! There were stairs with no guard rails too and there were windows at ground level in a courtyard that when open at ground level with a jaw dropping inside drop to a basement office. I spent a lot of time living on my wits keeping an eye on the boys.
    Our youngest boy the three year old was forever singing Isla Buenita by Maddona. The maids all loved this little blonde boy with brown eyes singing a Maddona song. I remember also finding him bending down by one afore mentioned windows chattering away to the office staff. We were always being stopped by hotel staff asking our littlie to sing…and he did. So It’s Maddona who reminds me of holidays too.

    1. What lovely memories, Willow, although health & safety very much out of the window back then. I can remember similar situations in the UK, especially when it came to fire escapes being blocked by old office furniture, or people jumping off the platform of a moving London bus and breaking one’s Sony Walkman (yes me!). Thanks for sharing those memories with us and for the Madonna song that brings back holiday memories for you.

    2. Thanks Willow. And thanks for sharing a memory of your own with a song to go with it. It’s funny how a song can take us back to somewhere else. 🙂 x

  15. Hi Hugh,
    Oh my, I think you might have more in mind with Jamie than a shoulder to cry on. Huh? 😎

    I follow Debbie and her blogs. I enjoyed her winter trip to Mexico with some great pictures.

    Hugs to all.

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