7 Reasons Why I Deleted My Facebook Account

Lately, Facebook has been in the news a lot, and I’m reading lots of articles comparing it to favourite social media websites of the past such as MySpace, LiveJournal and Friendster. Has it, too, had its day?

I’ve had a love/hate relationship with Facebook since I can remember. At first, I was very reluctant to join. Did I really want everyone knowing what was going on in my life, where I was, what I was doing, who I was with, etc., etc., etc.? I mean, there are other ways of finding out that information, isn’t there?

As an author, I know I should be using Facebook to help promote my book and my blog but, just over a year ago, I had decided enough was enough and finally gave Facebook its marching orders.

Here are my seven reasons why I deleted my Facebook account.

#socialmedia #Facebook
Time. Did you know that some people can spend a whole day on Facebook? Yes, a full day! I know people can also spend all day on other sites (some I’m not going to mention) and I’ve heard firsthand from some who wake up in the middle of the night and admit to logging onto their Facebook account just in case they’ve missed anything. Facebook was eating into my writing time. It had to stop! When scrolling through Facebook posts, when I could have been writing, I realised just how many ideas for stories and blog posts I’d let fly by. Something had to be done. I deleted my Facebook account.

The Past. It was my own fault; I should never have accepted those friends requests, but when people I hadn’t seen for over 40 years continuously messaged me every time I logged on, I began to get a little fed up and irritated with them. I never get angry or irritated (unless the outside temperature is over 25c and it’s humid) so something had to be done. I deleted my Facebook account.

Talking. Picking up the phone and calling somebody to tell them what a fantastic day out I’d had only to be informed that they’d already seen and read about it on somebody else’s Facebook timeline, was killing the art of conversation. If these friends already knew about my day, week, month, and what I’d been up to, then was there any point in talking directly to them anymore? I love people, I mean I am after all a ‘people person,’ but Facebook was taking away the art of conversation from me. Something had to be done. I deleted my Facebook account.

Location. Scrolling through Facebook and seeing posts such as ‘Mildred Longbottom – in Starbucks at the top of Mount Everest‘, and wondering why Mildred (who is a made-up friend) was even telling the world that she was in Starbucks. Seriously, would anyone really be interested? Facebook was continually giving me useless information I was not the least bit interested in. Why do people have to keep checking themselves in everywhere they go? Am I missing something here? Do I really care? Something had to be done. I deleted my Facebook account.

Photos. Some of the photos were amazing. Then there were the plain silly ones. Then there were the ones people were actually posting directly on my Facebook timeline. Do I really want to see a photo of two sausage rolls or a half-eaten banana being dipped into some whipped cream? Okay, I know I could have altered my settings, but could I really be bothered by all of that? Wasn’t sorting out my sock drawer more interesting? Something had to be done. I deleted my Facebook account.

Hackers. Perhaps I was too trusting, but when somebody from the same area as me (who was also a writer) sent me a friend’s request, and I accepted, I was a little shocked when she then posted an eye-popping photo on my Facebook timeline. I know it’s all about settings again, but I worried about how many of my friends had their eyes popped out before I deleted the offending photo, and reported the offending account to Facebook (as it had apparently been hacked). All my worry was already reserved for when and if The Spice Girls would ever reform. Something had to be done. I deleted my Facebook account.

Birthdays. I don’t know what’s worse; logging onto Facebook and getting lots of messages wishing you a ‘happy birthday’ (when it’s not your birthday), or telling the world it’s your birthday when, like me, you’re an introvert and don’t want all the fuss. The embarrassment of then being asked if it really was my birthday and that if it wasn’t then when was it, is not something I really want to get involved in. Aren’t there people out there (called scammers) who look for this kind of information so they can apply for a credit card in your name? Something had to be done. I deleted my Facebook account.

#socialmedia #socialmediatips

I know many people love Facebook, and have many good reasons for using it but, for me, having got rid of Facebook and lived without it for a year, I can confirm that life doesn’t come off the rails without it. In fact, for the first time, I can remember when asked the question ‘Are you on Facebook?’ I didn’t get that strange look I get when I turn green and announce that the jolly green giant has arrived.

If you want to know how to delete your Facebook account, I found this great article that explains how to do it. Click here to read it.

Also, check out this interesting post from Elena Peters – Is Facebook Even Worth The Time And Effort For Bloggers?

And this post from Phil Taylor, who predicted the end of Facebook – I Hate To Say I Told You So But I…Predicted #DeleteFacebook.

What about you? Have you deleted your Facebook account? If so, what were the reasons? Are you still on Facebook? If so, what keeps you there and how much time do you spend on it? Do you think Facebook has had its day?

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  1. I’m still on Facebook. I’ve lived in several countries and am still far away from where I grew up. For me Facebook is a great way to keep in touch with all the people I’ve met in various corners of the world. I’ve also spent years growning my author page following. I’m reluctant to let that go.

    1. That’s all great reasons to keep Facebook. I’d be interested in knowing if you’ve sold any books through it.

      I think my biggest mistake was that I did not separate my personal and business Facebook accounts.

      1. I’m a big believer is seperation. Work is work. Private is private. I have sold some books with ads. But I realized I was going about it all wrong so am working on correcting my mistakes now.

        1. Thanks for coming back. I think I’ve sold more books through my blog than I did with Facebook. However, I’m always very thankful to those who still share my blog posts on Facebook. I may not have a Facebook account anymore, but I still get traffic to my blog from it.

  2. Hi Hugh,
    The Blogger’s Pit Stop will feature your interesting post to give it some extra exposure.
    Kathleen
    Blogger’s Pit Stop

    1. Thank you so much, Kathleen. I’m thrilled to hear that the post will get featured. It’s already attracted a lot of really great comments and debate, but I’d love to get lots more.

  3. Hi Hugh, As always a very very informative read and well, you have me thinking!! Thank you for coming over to Senior Salon and sharing your story with us.
    Maybe, just maybe some of your followers will also hop over to the Senior Salon and share their awesome posts with us.

  4. All valid points, Hugh, really made me think. Dropped by from #BloggersPitStop today but always glad to be here. Hope the weekend is treating you kindly. 🙂

  5. Hugh, I’m way ahead of you — I never joined Facebook in the first place! For all the excellent reasons you gave for deleting it. I wish most of these social media things would just go away. Loved your “I never get angry or irritated (unless the outside temperature is over 25c and it’s humid)” because I’m the same way!

    1. I very nearly didn’t join Facebook, Jean. It was being told that I had to if I wanted my blog and book to be successful. How I wish I hadn’t listened to that advice, especially given that both have continued to be successful without Facebook. Still, I learned my lesson.

  6. I unfollowed everyone I know! I only continue to follow the kids school, my kids sporting groups and other inspirational pages. For me, It’s more a tool for news than for socialising.
    I’m still friends with people but because I unfollowed them I don’t see anything of theirs in my news feed, so this means when I actually see them in real life we can talk about what we’ve been doing rather than saying “yeah I saw it on facebook”. I don’t post anything on my personal Facebook page. I did this May last year, and it was a great decision!
    However I have been considering deleting it all together, deactivating my account entirely. I do have a Facebook page for my blog but I haven’t posted to it for months and I did explain on it that I’m not much of a Facebook user- the page will go because it’s not serving a purpose.

    1. Also- when I stopped using Facebook I discovered who my real friends are as they made the effort to contact me outside of Facebook, I often get messages from friends saying I saw this on Facebook and thought you’d be interested etc etc. My friends also send me personal invites to events rather than just assume I saw it on Facebook.

      1. That’s something I never really thought about, but you’re right in what you say. I’m pretty sure that I’ve not heard from many of the ‘friends’ who ‘friended’ me on Facebook since I deleted my account.

    2. I think it’s a good idea to get rid of anything that’s not serving a purpose, especially if we continue to give it any time. With WordPress, blog posts are posted directly to a Facebook account if you have linked it to your blog. However, you then have to check and respond to comments on there as well. That could become a problem if you don’t use Facebook much. However, when I did, I’d immediately start getting those annoying ‘Hi, how are you?’ messages from people I didn’t really know. I’m glad I deleted my account and have no regrets about it. I won’t be going back. From what I’m reading, some people are also predicting that Facebook has had its day and that it won’t be long before it becomes yet another abandoned social media platform.
      Thanks so much for leaving your comments on this subject.

  7. Am smiling because last week (April 2018) I did the same, for different reasons – my own, and my joint account with hubby -I kept on trudging through the mud because my kids begged me to stay, but in the end I just saw too many things I hated, and thought why do I put myself through this?? What lately came out about FB’s disregard for privacy was a red blinking traffic light. After a few choice words – delete – delete – , life is now much more peaceful and I have now OODLES of time.

    1. Good to hear. I can’t remember how long it took me to decide to delete Facebook. It may be because of the odd looks I used to get when saying I wasn’t on Facebook, but those looks have now disappeared. I love your description of comparing it to ‘trudging through mud.’ It sure can slow you down, while the time speeds past. I hope you’re making great use of all that spare time.

      1. It will prove who is close to me, and email me:) Now I have more time for painting and knitting, instead of taking time to keep up with all the political organizations. They will make their own decisions without me reading their stuff anyway:)

  8. I deleted my account for the same reasons. I didn’t want to be there on the first place. It was good for a while because I hadn’t seen some people in a long time. Then it lost its glory.

  9. I haven’t deleted mine because there are some genuine old friends who I only keep in touch with via the site, and some family members, but I rarely use it. Every time I log on there is someone moaning about something about the site, or those chain letter type messages. I used it before I started publishing so knew not to accept any old friend request, but, increasingly, I find it full of real ‘lowest common denominator’ stuff. And the writers groups are awful – cliques and oneupmanship.

    1. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Terry. I tried finding some really good writing and blogging groups on there but was unsuccessful. There were so many to choose from, and I soon gave up when nothing materialised from them. My time is now spent on better things.

  10. Facebook was my introduction to the world of social media and, through someone saying that I should start a blog, my introduction to the world of blogging! So I owe it a lot and the vast majority of the readers of my blogs (“Buses For fun!” & “Beyond Reality”) come from Facebook, both through my friends list and the relevant groups that I post on, so I don’t intend leaving it!

    But I hear what you’re saying about it’s addictiveness and was/to a degree still am! But I am conscious of it and try keeping it under control, only getting my phone out when doing absolutely nothing like waiting for a bus and so on!

    I only post on there what I don’t mind people knowing about me and I can honestly say most of my experiences have been positive. I’ve made several new friends, who I’ve subsequently met in the flesh and have been reunited with several friends from my past. So I intend staying!

    1. Thanks for your comments, Mark. It good to know that Facebook is working for you and that it has brought you into contact with many people. The same has been for me with blogging. I think my biggest mistakes with Facebook were not separating the business and friendships sides of it, and taking the advance to accept as many friends requests as possible so I could promote my blog and book. That certainly backfired on me.

      I’ve met some wonderful people through the blogging world and am also on the committee of a group of bloggers who organise an annual meet up for bloggers in London. We’re into our fourth year this year and the meetups seem to be going from strength to strength. Without the support of the blogging community, I would never have gone on to publish my first book.

  11. I am on Facebook, Hugh. I like some of the groups as I often see articles I wouldn’t have otherwise. I also stay in touch with the local author groups and find out about events that are coming.

  12. I’m still on FB though don’t spend a lot of time on it – never do quizzes or like promoted posts. It’s really good for staying in touch with friends in Afghanistan and Afghan friends who are scattered all over the world. My blogs posts show up there and get quite a bit of commentary. I totally understand your reasons for deactivating your account, though.

    1. Many people agree about how it helps in keeping in touch, Mary. I can see how that works if you’ve chosen wisely when accepting friends requests. Unfortunately, I think that’s where I went wrong. Still, I’ve survived without it, so there are no plans on going back.

  13. FB can be a time drain. I try to limit how much time I spend on there. My Authors/Bloggers Rainbow Support Club is on there so … I won’t be deleting it for now. But I do get what you mean Hugh. 🙂

    1. Thank you, Marje. I think limiting your time on there (if you need it) is the best way. However, I think many users would find it quite hard to do. It’s a little like me with my blog. If I spend too long away from it, I think it’s going to start crying and make me suffer.

  14. I’m not a fan of FB, it irks me a lot, but it has it’s uses for me too. I only spend about 1/2 an hour on FB in the evening, maybe less. My blog and instagram posts run through it, I only have friends/family I actually KNOW in real life on it (maybe 30 odd), and it don’t post things I wouldn’t want a stranger to know. I have never done quizzes, or shared memes, or chain posts – because I always had a healthy paranoia about that.
    In reality, your didgital data is available in many, many places – fill in a government form, Dr records, health records, online purchasing – any of those places can/will be hacked and data taken. It’s out there already – you will NEVER get it back – even if you delete every online place you’ve ever been.
    In the end it comes down to what you want to share, being sensible, and whether you enjoy it or use it for a specific purpose. If you don’t then get rid of it.

    1. That was one of my biggest mistakes, Claudette. I approved ‘friends’ requests from people I didn’t know. However, I was advised to get as many followers as possible on Facebook so I could promote my book and blog to them. How that backfired!

      You’re right about what information we give to companies. It’s not only Facebook but any website that we share information with. Fortunately, I turned down all the Facebook requests to play games or do tests to find out what kind of animal I was in a former life, but it still concerns me that Facebook may still hold some of my information. An account may get deleted, but that information doesn’t just disappear into thin air, does it?

      1. No information stored on the internet is ever fuly gone Hugh, regardless of what company it is stored with. So it;s not just FB that holds little cyber bits of you I am afraid.

        1. I thought so. I guess it’s the way of this modern world. I wonder how long they keep it for and what happens to it when we depart this world? I guess we don’t need to concern ourselves with that.

        2. i don’t think that it is that they Intentionally keep it – more like they can never fully delete it from the servers it has been on. It’s like even if you delete something off your laptop it is still actually there unless you completely reformat your hard disk. It’s hard to access it – but it is there. So, imagine all the servers in the world having to be completely wiped to remove your little bit of data – NOPE, not going to happen. 🙂

  15. After reading your post, Hugh, I have cleaned out my FB account of people I don’t interact with, something I have being meaning to do for ages. I am like Liesbet I use it to post my blog posts plus photos now and again. Though I do use messenger for quick messages though do use emailing too. As there are a few people who like to engage with me on FB regarding the blog so I will keep it for that reason. What I hate is all the rubbish that is shared as in videos etc of the latest blooper, as ironic as that sounds with me sharing blog posts!! 🙂

    1. I’m glad my post got you to do that job, Suzanne. It’s something I should have done, but I’ve deleted my account now and I’m glad I took that decision.

      It sounds as if you have your Facebook use under control. Keep it that way, and I’m sure it will continue to bring you enjoyment.

  16. Great post, Hugh. I have a Facebook account but I use it sparingly (mostly to publish Blog Posts, and to see photos that my sons have posted on FB). For me, most other uses of FB are not worth the hassle. Good on you for deleting!

  17. I”m with you on all counts Hugh. I totally get why you left. When I started publishing my books I re-activated my de-activated account (for all the same reasons) I just felt, like most writers it was good for my platform. I needed to re-activate in order to open an author page, like many. Anyhoo, I am not caught up in the FB world. I manage to have good discipline and don’t have the time to visit pages. I barely make it to the groups I run, my personal page and my political groups, lol. You can spend your day there if you wanted to for sure, but I do what I have to do and I’m out. Plus I don’t have notifications pinging me, I shut them off. I’ve also found that many of my author page followers have friend my personal page, so really, there is nothing personal left. LOL. So I hear you but I’m still there. ❤ xx

    1. Good to hear about your discipline with Facebook, Debby. The biggest mistake I made was approving friends requests from friends of friends of friends, third-party relatives five-times removed, etc. The constant messaging asking ‘how are you?’ from some people I had no idea about, or hadn’t seen in over 40 years, every time I logged on, began to get me very irritated. As if I had time to chat with them all day, but I guess they didn’t know about that.

      Sometimes we agree to things forgetting just how much of our time is already taken up. Saying ‘no’ can be difficult to do. We feel that we may be letting people down, but I think many understand our reasons and don’t mind. After all, we’re just being honest. I’ve been asked to head up and be a part of many groups, such as sci-fi groups, but just being a committee member of The Bloggers Bash is enough for me.

      Thanks for your input into this debate.
      xx

      1. I totally get it Hugh. We must all choose our ‘poisons’. And I can see how ‘friending’ all those people could get out of hand. I’m selective who I friend. I also rarely read my newsfeed – who has time? I’ll post to FB pages and groups and when I go on in evenings or rarely mornings, check notifications to reply and that’s it. 🙂 It works for me. 🙂 xx

  18. I agree with you on many of those points, Hugh. I try not to look at all the stuff on there and concentrate on my pages and updates. You can spend a whole day scrolling through all the stuff – some good and some not so good. FB does put on a cramp on life if we let it! Your post makes one think about FB in a different way. Hugs xx

    1. Thanks, Janice. Some of the comments also give many good points as to why they continue to use Facebook, but I’m very glad I deleted my Facebook account. It freed up a lot of time; time I now use on things I enjoy doing (like writing). 😀
      xx

  19. I’ll admit that sometimes I fantasize about deleting my fb account, but because I moved away from my hometown, it’s one of the few ways I can stay in touch with my family. Plus, I find the page I set up for my blog directs lots of traffic my way, so I’m fully in it now!

  20. We should all take a page out of the Millennial handbook and delete apps that don’t work. I keep my personal Facebook to keep up with friends and family who are far away, but I find myself only visiting it once a day. I also keep the account for my blog page and for sharing others blog posts (preferring to keep those separate), but you and Elena are right about lack of engagement with anyone. I allow Instagram to post to Facebook and I enjoy a few facebook groups for now. I also have sentimental reasons for keeping Face-butt around (as an old friend used to call it), since my husband and I met as a result of having it. Now he is rarely on it. It may be heading toward the dinosaur era of MySpace. You have great reasons for discontinuing it! I feel the same way about Pinterest, other than to save good ideas for decorating 🙂

    1. Good to hear you don’t give Facebook as much time as many others seem to, Terri. I do still get traffic to my blog from Facebook, and that must be because people like you share my posts on their Facebook timeline. Thank you to you (and everyone else) who does that.

      Elena’s post was really interesting. I’d never got any engagement from Facebook groups I was a member of. I also wondered how joining a group which was mostly made up of people who already followed my blog was going to benefit me in any way. If they already follow my blog, wouldn’t they see most of my posts, anyway? Yes, they may have missed some, but it seemed I had better things to do with my time.

      For me, Pinterest was much the same. Even to this day, I can see a large number against the Pinterest sharing button at the bottom on one of my posts, yet I get no traffic to my blog from it. Maybe it’s because I don’t have a Pinterest account anymore?

  21. I am very disturbed with what Facebook has done with all our personal information – make billions – but it’s the only way I can stay in touch with my friends in my hometown, especially when one is sick or, as is happening more frequently, dying. But if there is no real purpose for you FB page – I don;lt think it helps me sell books, frankly – then your decision is very sane!

    1. Thank you. I didn’t see what Facebook was doing for me. Maybe, as pointed out by some, I set it up all wrong, but I was only following the advice I’d had from others. It certainly backfired on me.

      I still get traffic to my blog from Facebook, but I think my blog helped me sell far more books than my Facebook page did. I certainly won’t be digging my facebook account back up.

  22. I’ve been thinking about this for quite a while, Hugh. And, over the last month done very little on FB. The relief of not having to keep up is so great. Unfortunately, I am with two groups that the only means to keep up with events are on FB. Yet, sometimes, with the general run of things I feel that we are all just talking to one another. Of the sixty-some student (all adults). I have in classes, only four are on FB – or any other social media. – and they are all intelligent people with active lives and hobbies. Thinking very hard on all the poits you raise. Thanks my friend.x

    1. That’s a startling piece of data about how many in your classes are on Facebook or other social media platforms, Judith. I wonder if the ‘high’ days of social media are coming to an end?

      Thanks so much for sharing that information with us.

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