7 Reasons Why I Deleted My Facebook Account

Lately, Facebook has been in the news a lot, and I’m reading lots of articles comparing it to favourite social media websites of the past such as MySpace, LiveJournal and Friendster. Has it, too, had its day?

I’ve had a love/hate relationship with Facebook since I can remember. At first, I was very reluctant to join. Did I really want everyone knowing what was going on in my life, where I was, what I was doing, who I was with, etc., etc., etc.? I mean, there are other ways of finding out that information, isn’t there?

As an author, I know I should be using Facebook to help promote my book and my blog but, just over a year ago, I had decided enough was enough and finally gave Facebook its marching orders.

Here are my seven reasons why I deleted my Facebook account.

#socialmedia #Facebook
Time. Did you know that some people can spend a whole day on Facebook? Yes, a full day! I know people can also spend all day on other sites (some I’m not going to mention) and I’ve heard firsthand from some who wake up in the middle of the night and admit to logging onto their Facebook account just in case they’ve missed anything. Facebook was eating into my writing time. It had to stop! When scrolling through Facebook posts, when I could have been writing, I realised just how many ideas for stories and blog posts I’d let fly by. Something had to be done. I deleted my Facebook account.

The Past. It was my own fault; I should never have accepted those friends requests, but when people I hadn’t seen for over 40 years continuously messaged me every time I logged on, I began to get a little fed up and irritated with them. I never get angry or irritated (unless the outside temperature is over 25c and it’s humid) so something had to be done. I deleted my Facebook account.

Talking. Picking up the phone and calling somebody to tell them what a fantastic day out I’d had only to be informed that they’d already seen and read about it on somebody else’s Facebook timeline, was killing the art of conversation. If these friends already knew about my day, week, month, and what I’d been up to, then was there any point in talking directly to them anymore? I love people, I mean I am after all a ‘people person,’ but Facebook was taking away the art of conversation from me. Something had to be done. I deleted my Facebook account.

Location. Scrolling through Facebook and seeing posts such as ‘Mildred Longbottom – in Starbucks at the top of Mount Everest‘, and wondering why Mildred (who is a made-up friend) was even telling the world that she was in Starbucks. Seriously, would anyone really be interested? Facebook was continually giving me useless information I was not the least bit interested in. Why do people have to keep checking themselves in everywhere they go? Am I missing something here? Do I really care? Something had to be done. I deleted my Facebook account.

Photos. Some of the photos were amazing. Then there were the plain silly ones. Then there were the ones people were actually posting directly on my Facebook timeline. Do I really want to see a photo of two sausage rolls or a half-eaten banana being dipped into some whipped cream? Okay, I know I could have altered my settings, but could I really be bothered by all of that? Wasn’t sorting out my sock drawer more interesting? Something had to be done. I deleted my Facebook account.

Hackers. Perhaps I was too trusting, but when somebody from the same area as me (who was also a writer) sent me a friend’s request, and I accepted, I was a little shocked when she then posted an eye-popping photo on my Facebook timeline. I know it’s all about settings again, but I worried about how many of my friends had their eyes popped out before I deleted the offending photo, and reported the offending account to Facebook (as it had apparently been hacked). All my worry was already reserved for when and if The Spice Girls would ever reform. Something had to be done. I deleted my Facebook account.

Birthdays. I don’t know what’s worse; logging onto Facebook and getting lots of messages wishing you a ‘happy birthday’ (when it’s not your birthday), or telling the world it’s your birthday when, like me, you’re an introvert and don’t want all the fuss. The embarrassment of then being asked if it really was my birthday and that if it wasn’t then when was it, is not something I really want to get involved in. Aren’t there people out there (called scammers) who look for this kind of information so they can apply for a credit card in your name? Something had to be done. I deleted my Facebook account.

#socialmedia #socialmediatips

I know many people love Facebook, and have many good reasons for using it but, for me, having got rid of Facebook and lived without it for a year, I can confirm that life doesn’t come off the rails without it. In fact, for the first time, I can remember when asked the question ‘Are you on Facebook?’ I didn’t get that strange look I get when I turn green and announce that the jolly green giant has arrived.

If you want to know how to delete your Facebook account, I found this great article that explains how to do it. Click here to read it.

Also, check out this interesting post from Elena Peters – Is Facebook Even Worth The Time And Effort For Bloggers?

And this post from Phil Taylor, who predicted the end of Facebook – I Hate To Say I Told You So But I…Predicted #DeleteFacebook.

What about you? Have you deleted your Facebook account? If so, what were the reasons? Are you still on Facebook? If so, what keeps you there and how much time do you spend on it? Do you think Facebook has had its day?

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188 comments

  1. Hi Hugh,
    As a blogger, I need Facebook groups to promote. I just get a new subscriber today I met in a Facebook group who liked my article.
    FB was hacked last week; I was thrown out of my account. I am grateful for the chance to promote in their groups. Off to read Phil’s post.
    Janice

    1. Hi Janice, you’re lucky. I always found Facebook groups dormant, unfriendly, or full of people who just wanted you to promote them without them promoting you. There were also some groups that had far too many rules, so I never really got any traffic from Facebook groups. However, I do know of a few people, like you, who do get good amounts of traffic to their sites from the Facebook groups they belong to.

  2. Hi Hugh, I already featured this post back in May, but I will feature it again as I have another post being featured that has a similar theme.
    All the best
    Kathleen
    Blogger’s Pit Stop

  3. Hello Hugh,

    Thank you for this post!

    I’ve also deleted my Facebook account about 2 years ago and I’m really happy that I made this decision. I have also written about this topic on my blog. I think ultimately, Facebook just really makes me sad. I recall one time, it was my birthday, and even if I consider myself an introvert, I like being greeted. But I really prefer for the interaction to be more personal (such as a phone call). Maybe I’m asking too much. When I logged on to my Facebook page a few days after my birthday, I saw a greeting plus some lengthy dedication from somebody close to me. All this time I wondering if they remembered my birthday. They did. They just decided to announce the greeting in Facebook even if I don’t use it as much.

    That experience made me really question the whole point of Facebook, at least for myself.

    Best,
    Sigrid

    1. Hi Sigrid,

      Thank you for your comments. I’m afraid that social media and technology have really spoilt the art of conversation, hasn’t it? People seem to much rather send a message via an app than pick up the phone, call somebody, and have a chat with them. When I think back of the time before computers and technology, people then had to make more of an effort to go out and meet people. I didn’t mind spending my time doing that, but I really started to resent the time social media was taking up in my life. I now only run three main social media accounts, all of which I only use for promoting my blog and book.

      Again, thank you for your comments on this post.

      Best wishes,
      Hugh

      1. Hello Hugh,

        I heard the other day that people now are more lonely than ever, despite the birth of social media which is supposed to make us all feel connected.

        On the flip side, I actually don’t mind Twitter and Pinterest. With Twitter, I have met the most amazing like-minded people (bloggers) and with Pinterest, it doesn’t take much of my time.

        But I do recall the time without social media. Most of the conversations happen over too many cups of coffee!

        Best,
        Sigrid

    1. I’ve never heard of it, but thank you for the details. We have to be so careful about how many social media platforms we use, otherwise, we face the real prospect of spreading ourselves too thinly. I’m currently at my maximum of using three social media platforms and they already keep me very busy.

      1. Yeah iam agree your point sir.Number of social media site now days and you already busy there.But only once time experience this site and get new experience. I hope you like and not disappointed . Thank you so much .

  4. Nice article! As an adoptee, Facebook was helpful with reuniting with biological relatives; however, I never went on before three years ago when reuniting started. I found myself in a world that I couldn’t understand. I do not like drama and when I found myself sucked into it, I actually became extremely depressed and found myself with high anxiety, losing friends and family over juvenile issues. Yesterday, I made the decision to delete my Facebook account completely and start something entirely different, blogging! I actually slept the best I had slept in two years last night. I didn’t worry about who was looking at my Facebook page where I would receive a phone call the next day about something I had posted. The kicker was when I would post a picture of my husband and me having a vacation and my friends and family would be questioning and/or upset that we didn’t drive an hour or two to see them on our vacation. Too much drama for me!

    1. Thanks so much for sharing your reasons for deleting your Facebook account with us. When I deleted my account, it was like having a huge dark cloud lifted. I’ve never looked back since pressing that delete button.

  5. Totally agree with all of your points, Hugh. I don’t use the Facebook app on my phone or tablet especially after reading a few blog posts on Why Not to Install Facebook Messenger (which I refused to do anyway…gut instinct). My other major turnoff was more recently when I was waiting for a card making tutorial to start on YouTube. The “ad” was for a piece of software that collects user information from Facebook accounts – phone numbers, email addresses, birth dates, cities/countries, etc. The voice was very sinister and upset me. I haven’t deleted my account yet as I sometimes have to post for the Thai restaurant that I frequent, and do some design work for. On the positive side, I will forever be grateful to Facebook for reuniting my cousin and aunt who I hadn’t seen since the mid-70s. I had been searching for them for years on Facebook and one day my aunt’s name came up, and from there I found my cousin. We keep in contact now with texts and/or FaceTime. I deleted my Facebook page and any personal info, including photos from my personal account. Thanks for writing such a great blog post!

    1. Thank you for this insight into Facebook and the way you use, it, Debbie. I was rather shocked to hear that Facebook still keeps our information even after we’ve deleted our account. I guess that many other companies do the same, though.
      I’m so pleased to hear that you were reunited with your cousin and aunt. I think Facebook has done a lot of reuniting people and, of course, keeping people in touch. My biggest mistake was mixing my blog up with my personal Facebook page. I learned a lot of lessons from doing that, but I won’t ever be tempted to go back to Facebook.

  6. FB has its good points and its bad. I unfollow anyone who uses capital letters and lots of exclamation marks – their life is too exciting for me. I unfriend anyone who I got sucked into friending and couldn’t care less about. I’m wondering why I have a FB page for my blog – it has been my nemesis and may be the first casualty of FB deletions when the time comes.

    1. I’m still getting traffic to my blog from Facebook even though I deleted my account last year. I have to thank those readers who are sharing my posts on their Facebook page. I don’t miss Facebook at all. If it’s not working, then why bother keeping it? I was amazed by how much time it freed up when I deleted my account.

        1. I remember that it took me a long time to figure out how to delete my Facebook account. It was the same when trying to cancel my free trial of Amazon Prime. These companies make it so hard for us.

  7. Always useful.. i have a live hate with face book. I only joined it 2012.. then had a freeze of it. Then joined it for my blog .i need to read the other post if face book is worth as a blogger. I actually had it work for me a little..

  8. I haven’t deleted my Facebook account yet because I don’t post much there that doesn’t already appear on my Blogs. When I set up my Facebook account, I linked it to my Blogs to automatically post and link my blog posts to Facebook. Other than that, I haven’t done much on Facebook.

    And I read a piece, I think in The Washington Post, that when we delete our Facebook account, Facebook keeps all that info anyway. They don’t delete it. They just make it so no one can see it except the corporations they are selling that information to and that Facebook keeps gathering info on us even after we leave Facebook because when we signed up for Facebook, I understand, we let them into our mobile phones, our tablets, our laptops, our desktops and probably in our bathrooms and bedrooms too.

  9. I’m still on Facebook. I’ve lived in several countries and am still far away from where I grew up. For me Facebook is a great way to keep in touch with all the people I’ve met in various corners of the world. I’ve also spent years growning my author page following. I’m reluctant to let that go.

    1. That’s all great reasons to keep Facebook. I’d be interested in knowing if you’ve sold any books through it.

      I think my biggest mistake was that I did not separate my personal and business Facebook accounts.

      1. I’m a big believer is seperation. Work is work. Private is private. I have sold some books with ads. But I realized I was going about it all wrong so am working on correcting my mistakes now.

        1. Thanks for coming back. I think I’ve sold more books through my blog than I did with Facebook. However, I’m always very thankful to those who still share my blog posts on Facebook. I may not have a Facebook account anymore, but I still get traffic to my blog from it.

  10. Hi Hugh,
    The Blogger’s Pit Stop will feature your interesting post to give it some extra exposure.
    Kathleen
    Blogger’s Pit Stop

  11. Hi Hugh, As always a very very informative read and well, you have me thinking!! Thank you for coming over to Senior Salon and sharing your story with us.
    Maybe, just maybe some of your followers will also hop over to the Senior Salon and share their awesome posts with us.

  12. All valid points, Hugh, really made me think. Dropped by from #BloggersPitStop today but always glad to be here. Hope the weekend is treating you kindly. 🙂

  13. Hugh, I’m way ahead of you — I never joined Facebook in the first place! For all the excellent reasons you gave for deleting it. I wish most of these social media things would just go away. Loved your “I never get angry or irritated (unless the outside temperature is over 25c and it’s humid)” because I’m the same way!

    1. I very nearly didn’t join Facebook, Jean. It was being told that I had to if I wanted my blog and book to be successful. How I wish I hadn’t listened to that advice, especially given that both have continued to be successful without Facebook. Still, I learned my lesson.

  14. I unfollowed everyone I know! I only continue to follow the kids school, my kids sporting groups and other inspirational pages. For me, It’s more a tool for news than for socialising.
    I’m still friends with people but because I unfollowed them I don’t see anything of theirs in my news feed, so this means when I actually see them in real life we can talk about what we’ve been doing rather than saying “yeah I saw it on facebook”. I don’t post anything on my personal Facebook page. I did this May last year, and it was a great decision!
    However I have been considering deleting it all together, deactivating my account entirely. I do have a Facebook page for my blog but I haven’t posted to it for months and I did explain on it that I’m not much of a Facebook user- the page will go because it’s not serving a purpose.

    1. Also- when I stopped using Facebook I discovered who my real friends are as they made the effort to contact me outside of Facebook, I often get messages from friends saying I saw this on Facebook and thought you’d be interested etc etc. My friends also send me personal invites to events rather than just assume I saw it on Facebook.

      1. That’s something I never really thought about, but you’re right in what you say. I’m pretty sure that I’ve not heard from many of the ‘friends’ who ‘friended’ me on Facebook since I deleted my account.

    2. I think it’s a good idea to get rid of anything that’s not serving a purpose, especially if we continue to give it any time. With WordPress, blog posts are posted directly to a Facebook account if you have linked it to your blog. However, you then have to check and respond to comments on there as well. That could become a problem if you don’t use Facebook much. However, when I did, I’d immediately start getting those annoying ‘Hi, how are you?’ messages from people I didn’t really know. I’m glad I deleted my account and have no regrets about it. I won’t be going back. From what I’m reading, some people are also predicting that Facebook has had its day and that it won’t be long before it becomes yet another abandoned social media platform.
      Thanks so much for leaving your comments on this subject.

  15. Am smiling because last week (April 2018) I did the same, for different reasons – my own, and my joint account with hubby -I kept on trudging through the mud because my kids begged me to stay, but in the end I just saw too many things I hated, and thought why do I put myself through this?? What lately came out about FB’s disregard for privacy was a red blinking traffic light. After a few choice words – delete – delete – , life is now much more peaceful and I have now OODLES of time.

    1. Good to hear. I can’t remember how long it took me to decide to delete Facebook. It may be because of the odd looks I used to get when saying I wasn’t on Facebook, but those looks have now disappeared. I love your description of comparing it to ‘trudging through mud.’ It sure can slow you down, while the time speeds past. I hope you’re making great use of all that spare time.

      1. It will prove who is close to me, and email me:) Now I have more time for painting and knitting, instead of taking time to keep up with all the political organizations. They will make their own decisions without me reading their stuff anyway:)

  16. I deleted my account for the same reasons. I didn’t want to be there on the first place. It was good for a while because I hadn’t seen some people in a long time. Then it lost its glory.

  17. I haven’t deleted mine because there are some genuine old friends who I only keep in touch with via the site, and some family members, but I rarely use it. Every time I log on there is someone moaning about something about the site, or those chain letter type messages. I used it before I started publishing so knew not to accept any old friend request, but, increasingly, I find it full of real ‘lowest common denominator’ stuff. And the writers groups are awful – cliques and oneupmanship.

    1. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Terry. I tried finding some really good writing and blogging groups on there but was unsuccessful. There were so many to choose from, and I soon gave up when nothing materialised from them. My time is now spent on better things.

  18. Facebook was my introduction to the world of social media and, through someone saying that I should start a blog, my introduction to the world of blogging! So I owe it a lot and the vast majority of the readers of my blogs (“Buses For fun!” & “Beyond Reality”) come from Facebook, both through my friends list and the relevant groups that I post on, so I don’t intend leaving it!

    But I hear what you’re saying about it’s addictiveness and was/to a degree still am! But I am conscious of it and try keeping it under control, only getting my phone out when doing absolutely nothing like waiting for a bus and so on!

    I only post on there what I don’t mind people knowing about me and I can honestly say most of my experiences have been positive. I’ve made several new friends, who I’ve subsequently met in the flesh and have been reunited with several friends from my past. So I intend staying!

    1. Thanks for your comments, Mark. It good to know that Facebook is working for you and that it has brought you into contact with many people. The same has been for me with blogging. I think my biggest mistakes with Facebook were not separating the business and friendships sides of it, and taking the advance to accept as many friends requests as possible so I could promote my blog and book. That certainly backfired on me.

      I’ve met some wonderful people through the blogging world and am also on the committee of a group of bloggers who organise an annual meet up for bloggers in London. We’re into our fourth year this year and the meetups seem to be going from strength to strength. Without the support of the blogging community, I would never have gone on to publish my first book.

  19. I am on Facebook, Hugh. I like some of the groups as I often see articles I wouldn’t have otherwise. I also stay in touch with the local author groups and find out about events that are coming.

  20. I’m still on FB though don’t spend a lot of time on it – never do quizzes or like promoted posts. It’s really good for staying in touch with friends in Afghanistan and Afghan friends who are scattered all over the world. My blogs posts show up there and get quite a bit of commentary. I totally understand your reasons for deactivating your account, though.

    1. Many people agree about how it helps in keeping in touch, Mary. I can see how that works if you’ve chosen wisely when accepting friends requests. Unfortunately, I think that’s where I went wrong. Still, I’ve survived without it, so there are no plans on going back.

  21. FB can be a time drain. I try to limit how much time I spend on there. My Authors/Bloggers Rainbow Support Club is on there so … I won’t be deleting it for now. But I do get what you mean Hugh. 🙂

    1. Thank you, Marje. I think limiting your time on there (if you need it) is the best way. However, I think many users would find it quite hard to do. It’s a little like me with my blog. If I spend too long away from it, I think it’s going to start crying and make me suffer.

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