49 Days In 1988: Week 11 – Decisions

Click here to read the first week of this feature, and follow the links at the end of each post.


London – March 22nd, 1988

My problem of finding a boyfriend has dropped down my list of issues today. I now find myself at a crossroads with my career, and I’m also somewhat worried about the visit of my mother on Tuesday next week.

I’ve had a change of heart over the offer of a new job with the Post Office. I was delighted, today, after asking my boss for a pay raise. He’s going to think about it and said he’d come back to me by the end of the week. It would mean an extra £70 a month, which isn’t bad, and he also promised me the chance of promotion in May or June. His response seemed very confident, and something tells me that I should stay where I am. He’s probably wondered why I hadn’t asked for a raise and promotion before.

I’m still undecided whether to go home to see the family this weekend. Having talked to Stephen about his weekend trip home to Scotland, with Kev, it could be a good idea and get me away from London for a few days. Stephen’s weekend trip did him a world of good, and my trip this weekend could get me prepared for me ‘coming out’ to mum when she visits me in London next week. I think I owe it to her to tell her about my sexuality. Maybe I should tell her if I go home this weekend and before her visit, though?

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Welcome to this new feature for 2018 on Hugh’s Views and News. In this feature, I’ll be sharing snippets from my diary of 1988. We’ll also take a trip in Hugh’s Music Time machine to hear some songs from the 1980s which have been chosen by some specially invited guests.

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Blogger, Writer and DJ, Steve McSteveface

This week my guest is blogger and music expert Steve McSteveFace. Like all my guests, Steve was asked to choose a random date and picked the 22nd March. So, the above entry from my diary comes courtesy of Steve.

I can’t remember who discovered who first, but I’ve been following Steve’s blog from my early days of blogging. Whereas I only have the one blog, Steve has progressed and now has three! I have no idea how he manages all three, given that I find managing just one blog tough enough, but his blogs are full of humour, variety and plenty of entertainment. Click the links below to visit his blogs.

  Steve McSteveFace

Talk About Pop Music

The Binge Guy

Steve is one of the bloggers I’ve been fortunate to meet in person. He came along to the second annual Bloggers Bash in 2016. Later on that year, he invited me as a guest on his internet radio show. It was the week before Christmas and the show was full of laughter, glitter and plenty of fun.

It’s not only music that Steve is a big fan of. The Eurovision Song Contest may be very close to his heart, but so is the TV show ‘Doctor Who.’ Steve even let me guest post about the show on his blog. Click here to read the post. Recently, he also found this Swedish version of the TARDIS on a recent visit to Stockholm. How cool is that?

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Photo Credit ©Steve McPherson

Steve has also appeared as a guest on my blog. Click here to read one of the posts. Last year, I even allowed him to take the controls of my music time machine for one week. Click here to read the post and to find out what his song choice was.

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Steve’s song choice from the 1980s is ‘I Think We’re Alone Now’ by Tiffany

Released in 1987, Tiffany’s cover version of ‘I Think We’re Alone Now’ shot to the number one spot of the singles charts in the U.S.A, UK, Canada and New Zealand. She was just 15 years old when this song was released in the summer of 1987. She was 16 when the album went to #1 in January 1988, making her the youngest female singer to top the US albums chart, and also the first singer born in the ’70s to hit the top spot.

My diary entry for this week found me very much alone in my love life, so thank goodness other things were occupying me at the time. Do you have a favourite song that you like to listen to when you’re alone? Share a link to it in the comments.

Next week, somebody finds themselves playing ‘Russian Roulette’ with other people’s lives. Click here to find out who it is.

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68 thoughts

  1. You’re brave! I found a diary I wrote as a teenager. It was hysterical. Yours is a REAL page turner.

  2. I came across your blog through Steve’ blog. A great idea to get connected with each other. Its always good to know the blogger but meeting in personal is really great.
    Still I have not met any blogger .
    May be in future.

    1. We’ve been holding a ‘Bloggers Bash’ event every year in London since 2015. It’s a great way to meet the people behind the blogs we follow. Hopefully, you’ll be able to meet some bloggers at an event near you one day soon.
      Thank you for your visit. And thank you to Steve for sending you here.
      Have a great weekend.

  3. This must have been a huge turning point in your life Hugh. If I’m correct your mum wasn’t really surprised? 🙂 Was Tiffany a one hit wonder? ❤

    1. Not quite the turning point, Debby. You may guess from next week’s entry as to what happened on the day my mum visited. Unfortunately, the next entry comes from the day after the visit. If anyone asks, I’ll let them know, but that may give you a clue as to what happened.
      As for Tiffany, I saw that Steve (in another comment) said you can still find her if you look hard enough. I think she had a few more hits and also went on to become a movie star. However, I’ve never heard of some of the movies she starred in. Movies: Mega Python vs. Gatoroid, Mega Piranha, Jetsons: The Movie, Death & Texas, Necrosis.

  4. I can only imagine how nervous you were, Hugh. I’m glad it’s easier for young people today. No one should ever have to worry that being themselves will loose them their family 😦
    Hey, Steve; Good song choice 🙂

  5. These looks into your youth are so poignant, Hugh. Thanks for the intro to Steve and his blog. And a great song. I remember that one. Tiffany had fairly short-lived fame (at least in my memory). It was a nice blast from the past. 🙂

  6. I believe your mother was accepting of your ‘news’ Hugh. But it must have been a difficult time for you anticipating reactions. Love meeting Steve. I already followed him on Twitter, but nice to learn more about him. Love the song he picked. I can’t imagine keeping up with 3 blogs! He is very funny.

    1. It was, Molly. The buildup to those moments of ‘coming out’ was very terrifying. There were so many questions going through my head and I often found myself putting other people first. I’d never want to go through it ever again.
      I can’t imagine keeping up with three blogs, either. Just having one takes up a lot of time. Perhaps Steve will let us know the secrets of managing more than one blog?

        1. It’s a sign of getting old isn’t it. I have also started hearing myself saying ‘that’s not a song’ when I hear some of the new music!

  7. Hi, Hugh – I’m glad to read (in the comments) that it was “good news on the job front”. I hope to read next week that your visit with your mother went very well….and that you found the love that you were looking for.
    Hi, Steve – Great song choice! I love that Tiffany was only 15 when recording this song!

    1. Hi, Donna. Next week’s entry comes from the day after my mother’s visit. I hope you’ll be able to read into it of what actually happened (I don’t want to give too much away here). Once it’s published (and if anyone asks) I’ll give the answer.

  8. Always intriguing, Hugh! Love that song, too. When my younger brother came out to our mom and dad, my mom was mostly upset about not having grandchildren (although she has two from me). He put off telling our dad for a very long time, but when he finally did, Dad handled it well–much better than we predicted. Looking forward to reading more!

    1. Thanks, Terri. Having to face other people’s reactions when speaking the truth about ourselves is one of the most difficult decisions we can make. Will we upset them? How will they cope? How will we cope? I’ve written about ‘coming out’ to my mother before, and it went far better than I could ever have imaged. However, not all the family were as acceptable as she was. There I was – me, being who I was and not being able to change who I was, and turning people’s worlds upside down because of who I was. It made these decisions all the more difficult. I think things are easier these days, but I still wouldn’t want to have to go the process again.

  9. It must have been quite an ordeal coming out to your Mum, Hugh, especially back then when it was not talked about much except in a negative way.
    I love Steve’s song choice, it is one that I used to listen to a lot during the 80s and I still love hearing it now.
    My choice for when I am on my own would be this one. I love his voice and several of his songs, but this is my favourite.

    1. It was certainly a frightening experience, back then, Judy. Of course, it was something that could be with somebody for a very long time. I always had that decision, of whether I should tell, on my mind. When would be the right time and who should I tell? One of the hardest decisions I’ve ever encountered.
      Thank you for your lovely song choice. Older songs are always such classics. For me, when music was a lot more fun.

      1. I am hoping that when you did finally pluck up the courage to tell people that it went better than you expected it to, Hugh. I am glad you enjoyed my song choice this week 🙂

  10. I so love this mix of diary and music Hugh and all your guests have picked great music and Steve’s choice brought back memories to me. I had been married 16years, had three children and just into my thirties. Hubby worked away a lot so I often wished I could be alone for a little break! …song from then that I still love and sing along to now when alone. It from 1989 Dusty Springfield and the Petshop Boys, “nothing has been proved”

    1. Thanks for that song choice, Willow. It’s one I’ve not heard being played very much, which is such a shame as it’s a lovely song. And thanks for sharing those memories with us. Music has so much ‘memory’ power.

  11. Hi Hugh,
    I won’t be a spoiler, but last year I reblogged a post of yours from that era with a picture of your mother and you. I’m glad you are sharing your story so people understand the heartaches and discrimination we experienced during our earlier lives. I can’t wait to hear more of your search for ‘Mr. Right’.

    1. Hi Chuck, yes, that’s been one of my most viewed posts. The next diary entry comes from the day after the visit of my mother. Without giving too much away, you may get the answers to how she reacted, indeed, even if I told her that day. 😀I know, I’m a tease, but it’s not me that picked all of these dates. 😀

  12. Sometimes it helps to take the bull by the horns, so to speak. Your boss sounds like a fair guy, I hope you got your raise and the promotion, too.
    I imagine the conversation with your mom was incredibly awkward (who wants to talk sex with their parents?) I hope she handled it well.
    Great meeting Steve on your blog. This song is one of my favorites, I love her voice!

    1. It does, Jacquie. However, that lack of self-confidence (I spoke about in my diary entry last week) often eludes me (even to this day). But, it was good news on the job front. Next week’s entry is from the day after my mother’s visit. You may be able to tell from the entry how it went, if at all. 🤨

  13. I love Tiffany! That song makes me remember dancing around the house with my daughter. Great times. I enjoyed your entry and look forward to reading about your visit with your mother.

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