49 Days In 1988: Week 9 – Looking For Love

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London – March 5th, 1988

This must have been the quietest weekend I’ve had for a long time, but one I certainly needed. The only contact I’ve had with the outside world, was when I worked at Selfridges.

I’ve had a good think, too, and only hope I do hear the news this coming week about my new job with the Post Office. I also thought that depression would set in, but I think that’s only because of the reclusive side of the weekend. Best shake those thoughts off. 

Mind you, I certainly could now do with a boyfriend. I’ve had my chances, I know, but nobody from the past few weeks has been what I’m looking for. Perhaps I’m too fussy, but I’ll know when ‘Mr. Right’ comes along, and even though I may have to wait a while yet, I think I can hang on a little longer. I’ve also placed an advert in ‘Time Out’ in the hope of finding this ‘special man.’ It’s a long shot, I know, but it could work. Afterall, remember Michael? 

My absence from the ‘Gay scene’ has also done me good. In fact, I’ll be staying in now until I visit a new disco this Thursday night at ‘Silks’ called ‘The Block.’ I may go with Stephen or James but am prepared to go on my own. 

I’ve also been invited to a party next Saturday night at Huw’s house in Stanford Brook. It’s his ‘going away’ party as he leaves London on Sunday to live back in Wales. Two very different nights ahead but, who knows, they could bring that special person into my life.


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Welcome to this new feature for 2018 on Hugh’s Views and News. In this feature, I’ll be sharing snippets from my diary of 1988. We’ll also take a trip in Hugh’s Music Time machine to hear some songs from the 1980s which have been chosen by some specially invited guests.

This week my guest is the author, writer and blogger Helen Jones. Like all my guests, Helen was asked to choose a random date and chose the 5th March. So, the above entry from my diary comes courtesy of Helen.

Helen is a fellow committee member of The Bloggers Bash. Don’t know what the Bloggers Bash is? Click here for details. In fact, I first met Helen at the very first Bloggers Bash which was held in August 2015. She appears in the following video.


In January 2017, Helen’s book ‘A Thousand Rooms’ was my book recommendation of the month. Click here to read the post.

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A Thousand Rooms by Helen Jones

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Oak & Mist. The first in The Ambeth Chronicles series from author Helen Jones

Helen is also the author of ‘The Ambeth’ Chronicles series of books, all of which can be purchased on Amazon. The books follow the adventures of Alma who, when stumbles between two trees, ends up in Ambeth, a place where time twists and a palace gleams in green gardens. Where Light and Dark hold the balance of the worlds, and beauty is a birthright, not a gift.

‘When Alma stumbles between two trees into Ambeth, she finds she has a choice to make. Three items are lost: A Cup, a Sword and a Crown. Light and Dark are embroiled in a struggle for control. And both sides have been waiting for Alma to arrive…

A hidden world. A family secret. And a choice. But how do you choose between your head and your heart?’

Click here to buy Oak & Mist.

Author. Writer and Blogger: Helen Jones
Author, Writer and Blogger: Helen Jones

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Helen’s song choice from the 1980s is ‘The Reflex’ by Duran Duran

Released in 1984, ‘The Reflex’ was Duran Duran’s most successful single. The song was their last UK number one single, and it also made it to the number one spot on the Billboard Hot 100 in the U.S.A. Helen chose the song because she was actually in the audience when the video for the song was recorded. Did you spot her? Thanks for the great song choice, Helen.

Some of the lyrics from Helen’s song choice are “Why don’t you use it?” Maybe that was something I should have been doing in February 1988 when looking for love? Do you have a favourite song that’s connected to you or somebody else looking for love? Share a link to it in the comments.

Next week, I have a real battle on my hands when depression and a new ‘self-confidence’ pay me a visit. Click here to read the next part of my diary.

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  1. Ahh…the lovely Helen and great song choice. I have a way too long TBR list…arrrgh! Sounds like you were going through some pretty life changing decisions at this time in your life Hugh. London was certainly brought you a tumultous time. Interesting you worked for the Post Office as I also did for a couple of years in 1978 to 1980. I love my job there, working behind the counter 🙂 Looking forward to picking back up later with you next week and read the next installments…I wonder how far away Mr Right was? Happy Easter Hugh… 🙂 xxx

    1. Thanks, Sherri. Although I got offered the job with the Post Office, things changed and I stayed with my job at Selfridges. The job at the Post Office was night shifts, and I’m not sure how I would have coped with that. I remember so well the advert for the job – ‘Have the whole day free to do what you want.’ Of course, it never mentioned anything about most of your free day trying to get to sleep. I’m not sure it would have worked out at all for me, so I turned down their offer.
      I have to admire the counter staff in the Post Office. They sometimes have to put up with so much abuse from customers, especially when the queues are very long, but I’ve always found they do a brilliant job.
      Happy Easter to you, Sherri. I hope the Easter Bunny brings you chocolate.🐰

      1. Haha…if only. It sounds so good doesn’t it, but as you say, trying to sleep in the day is quite another matter. You made the right decision Hugh! I loved my job behind the counter, and we did everything back then, including fishing and dog licences! I had a lot of fun and mention a few episods from my days then in my memoir…I was the youngest by far and it was a crazy time in my life. There were one or two strange and rude customers, but today it seems that the general public has become more difficult. So sad to see those signs up everywhere, even at the doctors, saying that threatening and rude behaviour will not be tolerated. It’s so sad those notices have to be there at all isn’t it? It’s always the few who upset the rest…such is life.
        Thank you Hugh…and the same to you for a chocolate-filled Happy Easter! xxx

        1. I remember the Dog’s Licence. I think one cost 37.5p when I last purchased one. I don’t think I was ever asked to produce it.

          Great to hear that you’ve included some of your time at the Post Office in your memoir, Sherri. I have so many tales I could tell from my days working in Selfridges. Happy days when stores closed every Bank Holiday and every Sunday. Plus, the only late night shopping was until 7.30pm on a Thursday evening. How times have changed.


        2. Hi Hugh, just returning after our Easter getaway. Hope you had a lovely Easter 🙂 Those dog licences were done away with a while ago I think? I haven’t included too much about the job itself, more on one of the characters I worked with and reminiscent of a way of life that seems unrecognisable now. Much like your memories of your days at Selfridges. Not that long ago, in the grand scheme of things, but so very different. Sunday closing was always the thing for us growing up wasn’t it? Now it seems to be the busiest day of the week! I bet you could tell some amazing stories from those days Hugh! Meanwhile, I will be in and out here catching up with your diaries! Have a lovely weekend Hugh! xxx

  2. One of my husband’s favorite sayings is ‘good things come to those who wait.’ He is a patient sort, and I’m not but we found each other after he waited for seven years for the ‘right’ person. Love your diary entries and this one finds you more grounded. It can’t be long now! Thank you for introducing us to Helen and her books. She sounds lovely and now I have another author to catch up with!

    1. You’re welcome, Molly. Thank you for sharing the story of your husband and how long he waited for you to come along. His wait was very much worth it. I think we always know when the right person comes along.

  3. Waiting for the right person to come along can be so hard! Watching my kids go through this is harder than going through it myself! It looks like it all worked out for you in the end but 1988 certainly seems like it was a trying year for you!

    I keep forgetting to thank you for introducing me to these bloggers. Some I am familiar with, some I’m not. Thank you!
    And finally- never heard this before…..where was I in 1984??? It’s SO 80’s and SO Duran Duran though! 🙂

    1. It was also a fun year (as we’ll discover later on, Kat). I got to the stage where ‘love’ would find me rather than me find it. Sometimes, when we look too hard, we can’t see what’s right in front of us and we’ll walk right on by. Life has a habit of making things happen when we least expect it.

      It’s a pleasure introducing you to all my guests. I wanted to give them centre stage with me. I’d forgotten about this Duran Duran song, so I’m glad that Helen introduced it to me again.

  4. Let’s hope that the man of your dreams soon comes into your life, Hugh, although of course, love can be a bit of a bumpy ride, to say the least!
    Another fabulous music choice, thanks to Helen for choosing such a great track. 🙂

  5. Nice to see Helen here. How exciting for her at that time to be in the video! I enjoyed Helen’s Book creative story, Oak and Mist. Fun posts with the music and the snippets of your diary, Hugh. Thanks for sharing. 🤗

  6. I’m so looking forward to hearing about your Mr Right Hugh. This is a nice post, you sound to be a better place, (hope the depression doesn’t rear it’s ugly head, although reading between the lines and the comments, I’m afraid it may…) Such a personal series Hugh, I feel I shouldn’t be reading somehow, but I can’t help it because it’s such a good read so looking forward to the next… Really enjoyed the excerpt from the first BB, I’m looking forward to meeting you all in a few months 🙂

    1. Diaries are so personal and private, Sam. However, I always remember the quote ‘a story is not a story until it has been read by somebody other than the author.’ I’m glad I found this dairy because it certainly got me out of a problem I was having in finding a replacement feature I had running during 2017. I don’t mind ‘new eyes’ upon these entries. They’d had never seen the light of day again had it not been for me discovering the world of blogging.

      Looking forward to meeting you at the Bloggers Bash in May. It’s going to be a fantastic day.

  7. It’s nice to meet Helen here, Hugh, and catch up on another snippet from your diary. I’m amazed at what you wrote in your diary and that you are sharing it with us – so personal. I do hope both events bring something or someone good into your life. I don’t like the sound of the depression coming up in the next post. Best wishes.

    1. I haven’t actually read all of the diary, Norah, so I do hold my breath, sometimes, when it comes to writing the next piece. However, this was me 40 years ago. Long gone now, but it’s surprising how what was happening back then can still affect me today. You’ll find out what I mean by that over on Charli’s blog next week. 😀

  8. That song, that video, that hair, those dance moves…..all take me straight back to the 80’s! Thanks for a great song choice, Helen. And Hugh, I can’t wait to read what response you received to your ‘Time Out’ advert!

  9. Sadly I can’t make it across the pond to the bash but I do look forward to hearing all about it. Your snippet from 1988 reminds me of the Cat Stevens song “Another Saturday Night.” By the way, that was one of the worst years of my life so I do look forward to hearing that your 88 experience was better than mine. Cheers from California Hugh!

    1. Sorry to hear about ’88 being a bad year for you, Jan. Looking through my diary for that year, I seemed to have had ups and downs, but a lot of fun along the way as well. However, if it hadn’t been for living in London, I don’t think I’d have had as much of the fun.

  10. You know the most interesting and accomplished people, Hugh! Duran Duran was such a popular band when I grew up in the eighties. I wonder how Helen discovered she was in the video? Looking forward to the next installment of your diary!

    1. Hi Lisbet, I’m just one of the thousands in the crowd. I remember it very well though – Simon LeBon stood on stage and told us all they were making a video that night, and the crowd basically wet themselves, screaming hysterically. Apparently they filmed it over the two nights, March 4th and 5th, so it was pretty amazing to be there on one of them. Apparently Simon was dating a model from Toronto at the time, which is why they chose that city to shoot the video.

    1. Yes, I worked in Selfridges from 1986 until 1989. It was where I met most of the ‘gay’ crowd. I loved working there. It was a blast. It’s been revamped since I worked there. Looks nothing like it did when I worked there, but there’s the odd bit that still looks the same. I have some great memories of working there, especially one Christmas party with the ladies who worked in the Sunglasses department. That’s another story, though. 😀

  11. That’s lovely that you added the video of the 2015 Bash! Wonderful to see it again. Great song choice, Helen! I love Duran Duran and The Reflex is one of my favorite (if not THE favorite) songs of theirs. 1984 was a great for me too!

      1. I thought the same! You all had a plan and developed what you saw could be improved every year. I hope you are organizing another Blogger Bash in 2019 and I hope that I can make it again to come!!

  12. HI Hugh,
    Ah, the story continues as you looked for ‘Mr. Right’. Those fears of the past due to discrimination come through with your journal. The world has changed for us, but those hurts from the past are still in our memory and make us what we became. Duran was talented but never made my favorite list. Keep the story moving forward. I’m sure there are more spicy stories to be told. HUGS

    1. Spicy? You bet, Chuck. 😀
      Thank you for taking time out from your blogging break to read the next part of my diary. Next week’s entry is only three days later in the diary, so the story should neatly piece together. 🌈
      Hugs to you.

  13. I remember being young and looking for love, Hugh. It can be a tough and lonely time in life. I loved Helen’s book A Thousand Rooms. What beautiful writing from a talented author. And thanks for the song! Wow, is all this 80’s music bringing back memories. Wonderful. 🙂

    1. Indeed it can, Diana. Thank goodness I didn’t have to wait too long, although I did make a few mistakes with my choices along the way. I love the music of the ’80s. As you said, it brings back so many lovely happy memories.

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