Book Of The Month – P.S. I Forgive You – by D.G. Kaye @pokercubster

A warm welcome to Debby Gies, whose blog was recently one of my ‘must follow’ blogs of 2017. Over to you, Debby.

What is the name of your book and what inspired you to write it?

My latest book is titled, P.S. I Forgive You, and although it’s a standalone book, it was written as closure to Conflicted Hearts, which is about my journey from childhood through my adult life living under the psychological rule of my narcissistic mother. P.S. I Forgive You is about finding an understanding about what propelled my mother to act as she did, and my struggle to let go of the guilt inbred in me and discovering a path to forgive her upon her death, and myself for becoming an absent daughter.

P.S. I Forgive You - A Broken Legacy - D.G. Kaye
The cover of Debby’s latest book

How long did it take you to write the book?

I began writing P.S. I Forgive You a few months before my mother died in late 2014 while I was working on my other book, Have Bags, Will Travel, which I published first then finished P.S. I Forgive You in summer of 2016. It’s sometimes difficult to track timeframes in my writing because I tend to be writing two books at the same time. I like the versatility of working on two projects at once, just as I enjoy reading two books at the same time, allowing me to read or write depending on the mood and mindset I’m in.

Whom do you think your book appeals to?

That’s an interesting question, Hugh. Often we write books geared toward a particular audience. I intended to write the book for a mature, female audience who may have encountered similar issues they could identify with in their own lives. But it turns out, I’ve gained some younger generation readers as well as several male readers. Sometimes our intentions can reach out further than our originally anticipated intentions. This is a good thing.

Do you have any plans for a follow-up book?

I’d have to say this is the final book in that realm of my memoirs. All my books are written in memoir or essays on situations I’ve encountered in life, so any future books will have the same premise, although more current subject matter. I think my next book or two will be based more on relationships, ageing, and more about building a self-esteem.

How long have you been writing?

I’ve been writing ever since I learned how to write. Growing up unable to voice my opinions led me to pen and paper as tools to sort out my thoughts and observations. I used to write short poems, notes and cards for friends and loved ones when I was a child. Eventually, my writing turned into journaling about life and my grievances about growing up in a broken home. Later in my twenties, I began writing about finding myself, and my path to building up my non-existent self-esteem.

Where do your ideas about stories come from?

All my stories are written from my own experiences – trials and tribulations, discoveries, and overcoming.

When and where (and how often) do you write?

I write every day. It may not always be book writing, but I’ll be writing blog posts, journaling about recent discoveries, writing for interviews or book reviews, or just using writing prompts to keep the creative juices flowing or to help with writer’s block. The trick is to be writing. Using our writing muscles every day keeps our minds sharp and remembering writing rules. I write at home. I can’t write in public places with noise and goings on, I’m too easily sidetracked. I can’t have any music or distractions when I write.

What do you think the future holds for you and your book? What plans do you have for future books?

I wish I had a crystal ball. I think the possibilities of where my career will go are endless, depending on how far I push my limits – and with a little luck. Exposure is key for all of us writers, keeping up a social web presence, and interacting with readers. I began to notice my following grow immensely this past year, so my platform building is finally beginning to pay off. This year I’d like to get myself more involved with doing videos and perhaps a podcast show to grow my audience. I currently have outlined two new writing projects, which should keep me quite busy in 2017.

What three pieces of advice would you give to someone who wants to write and publish a book?

My advice:

  • Write every day and read many books. Read other genres to get a different feel for different styles of writing.
  • Follow some of the pioneers in the publishing industry and other bloggers who keep us current with what’s happening in our industry.
  • Writing and publishing are like any other business, you can’t start a successful business without injecting some cash. That said, besides writing quality material, the two most important elements that help sell books are good editing and quality book covers.

Thank you so much, Hugh, for inviting me over to your wonderful blog today. I feel honored to be one of your chosen authors to have her book featured on your page.

D.G. Kaye BIO:

I’m a nonfiction memoir writer who writes about life, matters of the heart and women’s issues. I write to inspire others by sharing my stories about events I encountered, and the lessons that come along with them.

I love to laugh and self-medicate with a daily dose of humor. When I’m not writing intimate memoirs, you’ll find me writing with humor in some of my other works and blog posts.

When I was a young child, I was very observant of my surroundings. Growing up in a tumultuous family life, otherwise known as a broken home, kept me on guard about the on-and-off-going status of my parents’ relationship. I often wrote notes and journaled about the dysfunction that I grew up in. By age seven I was certain I was going to grow up to be a reporter.

Well, life has a funny way of taking detours. Instead, I moved away from home at eighteen with a few meager belongings and a curiosity for life. I finished university and changed careers a few times, as I worked my way up to managerial positions. My drive to succeed at anything I put my mind to led me to have a very colorful and eventful life.

Ever the optimist, that is me. I’ve conquered quite a few battles in life; health and otherwise, and my refusal to accept the word No, or to use the words ‘I can’t’ have kept me on a positive path in life.

I love to tell stories that have lessons in them and hope to empower others by sharing my own experiences.

Debby Gies - Aka, D. G. Kaye


Conflicted Hearts

MenoWhat? A Memoir

Words We Carry

Have Bags, Will Travel

P.S. I Forgive You

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  1. Another wonderful feature of one of your books I missed the first time ’round, Deb. Congtrats – and great choice, Hugh. Some of the parts of this interview were new, but none surprising – Debby is a delightful open-faced sandwich.

    I hope this book finds an audience of younger parents who are, perhaps, a bit overwhelmed at times, encouraged to soldier on through a first-person glimpse at the life-long resonance of what we say to our children and whether or not they feel encouraged.
    (Madelyn Griffith-Haynie – ADDandSoMuchMORE dot com)
    ADD Coach Training Field founder; ADD Coaching co-founder
    “It takes a village to transform a world!”

    1. Thanks so much Madelyn, for coming over to Hugh’s to read our little interview. I love your way with words, so now I’m a sandwich? Lol you crack me up. Thank you for reading and for your always inspiring comments. 🙂 xx

  2. A wonderful interview, Hugh and Debby. Debby, have you always had a knack for wit and humor or is it a result of your tumultuous childhood. It’s always a pleasure to learn more about you, Love and Hugs.

    1. Thanks for the lovely comment Michelle. I think I’ve had a good sense of humor since I was a child. That and my imagination kept me sane. Once I moved away from home and learned to let out my outgoing personality, I discovered I love to laugh and make others laugh. I’m always looking for the funny side of things. Hugs back ❤

  3. Great to learn more about your writing style and habits, Debby. Very encouraging interview, especially about the social media payoff. Much continued (and greater) success to you. I look forward to seeing what the future holds for you and your words.

  4. Hugh and Debby, thank you both for a wonderful interview. I enjoy reading about writers whose work I’ve read, and Debby’s writing is deep, thought-provoking, and evocative. I loved getting to know more about her and her writing!

  5. What a wonderful interview, Hugh and Debby. I really admire the way you can work on two projects at once, Debby! That is certainly dedication in my book. I don’t know how you manage that as well as do all of the other things like wrting book reviews and supporting us fellow bloggers! 🙂

    1. Thanks Judy. Well as self published authors, I think we all have learned something about multi-tasking – writing books, blogs, social media, etc. So really, what’s the diff writing 2 books, lol? Seriously, I find it helpful to have a choice for what I’m in the mood for and a distraction at the same time. Once I’m into revisions on a draft then I commit fully to getting that one book out. It’s similar to reading for me, I’m always reading 2 books, something fun and something serious so I have a choice for my mood preference. 🙂

  6. Fantastic interview, thank you Hugh and Debby! I always learn something new about you Deb, and some more of our similarities when I read your interviews Deb. I too have always written – anything – from a young age and I also don’t accept ‘no’ for an answer. That can be both good and bad, I’ve found! But you’re right, it does make for an eventful life, even if not always what we expect, on quite a few levels. Exciting to read about your upcoming new ventures and great advice for writers too. Thank you again and great big hugs to you both xxx

    1. Thanks sweet Sher for dropping by and leaving your always encouraging words. I’m no longer surprised at our similarities LOL. Huge hugs xoxoxoxo 🙂 ❤

  7. Congrats on your Book of the Month, Debby! I’m so glad your books are finding a broader audience than just older women 🙂 Ha ha. There is wisdom in your pages for all of us, regardless of age and gender. Excellent interview and selection, Hugh!

  8. Wonderful interview with Debby Hugh… Debby has become such a good blogging friend since our paths crossed.. And I so enjoyed this interview.. This sentence so summed up Debby’s Energy
    “I love to laugh and self-medicate with a daily dose of humor.”… 🙂 Wonderful… the world needs more Debby’s.. 🙂
    Love and Hugs to you both.. ❤

  9. I sometimes wonder how emotionally difficult and draining it would be to revisit painful times – and then make it public. That takes a lot of courage. Apart from being therapeutic and healing ( I presume) how difficult was it for you Debby ? I honour and respect your motivation and willingness to share your journey and learnings.

    1. Thanks so much Raili for the kudos. Nobody said it was easy. But if I survived an emotionally challenged childhood and overcame, I felt compelled to share in hopes to help others know, by seeking the whys for better understanding, there is always a way to put things in perspective. 🙂

      1. I agree, but it takes a special kind of resolve and resilience to be able to do that. And to do it without bitterness in a way that connects . Not everyone can. You do 🙂

  10. I haven’t read this memoir yet, but it is on my list. I thoroughly enjoyed Have Bags Will Travel, and enjoy reading Debby’s posts. She has a very pleasant, warm, friendly style that makes me feel like we are sitting together havin a chat over a cup of tea. It’s great to meet up with her here on your blog, Hugh.

    1. Thanks so much for coming over here to read Norah. I’ll tell you, even though I do like to find the funny side of life, this book is no laughing matter, rather, raw emotional truth, which is part of my writing style in all my books. 🙂

        1. I understand. From most of the reviews this book has received, I’ve found that’s it’s touched a spot on so many, even helped some. That’s the mission, hoping my words will help others. 🙂

  11. Terrific interview, Hugh and Debby. And great advice, Deb, for those who want to write and publish a book. The details often can be overlooked when pushing ahead to see a finished product. 🙂 ♥

  12. I love your versatility Debbie. I’m going to check out your blog and your memoir sounds very interesting. I love that you also write humor. We humor writers need to stick together and support each other, right?

    1. Thanks so much Molly. My other tagline besides, Live Laugh Love , , , And don’t forget to breathe, is ‘You gotta laugh’, so it seems we have a lot in common. Lovely to connect with you. I love your blog. 🙂

  13. Brilliant interview between two strong and perceptive writers. The strong questions complimented Debbie’s unflinching honesty about her life and work. Fantastic reading. Thanks

  14. Reblogged this on Smorgasbord – Variety is the spice of life and commented:
    The first of each month Hugh Roberts showcases an author who is then featured for the rest of the month on the front page of his blog. This is a massive opportunity and April’s author is firm favourite D.G. Kaye (Debby Gies) who reveals little snippets about herself that you many not already know.. Please head over and comment on Hugh’s blog… #recommended

  15. Exposure is the key, you are so right Debbie! It is a pleasure to know that you write everyday…that is very inspiring for persons like me who write only when inspiration hits! It is nice to know you more. Have a wonderful weekend 🙂

    1. Thanks so much Balroop. You don’t have to necessarily have to be writing a book every day, but writing in journals, blog posts, interviews is all good mental exercise. 🙂

  16. Hugh, thanks so much for having me over to your esteemed blog. It was a delight chatting with you here. And thanks for sharing my work with your readers. This is a lovely treat. 🙂 ❤

  17. A wonderful interview with Debbie, Hugh. I loved the point about our intentions sometimes reaching out further than we originally anticipated. This is so true. I write for children but often have adults tell me they loved the books. You list yourself as a nonfiction writer. Do you change anything like names and places to protect the privacy of certain people in your novels?

    1. Hi Darlene, thanks for commenting. I changed the names, only of my family members in my books. In my book, Conflicted Hearts, where I write about 2 important relationships, those names have been altered as well as occupations. As a nonfiction writer, we have to take extra care with liberties and who and what we are talking about in our books. 🙂

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