#1000Speak A Smiley for my Friend Hugh. A Guest Post by @RonovanWrites

No, don’t worry. You’re in the right place. We’re without Hugh for a few days, and he thought it would be a good time for me to hop on over and do a guest post. I’ve scaled back for the week on RonovanWrites, so it worked out just right. Right?

Danger Danger

Of course, Hugh didn’t give me any ideas about what to write or any restrictions. You pick which of those two might be the most dangerous, and once we finish today, you can see if you made the right choice. Personally? I have no idea yet. I’m just typing whatever comes to mind at this point. And that is 100% serious.

What is Hugh?

The first thing that comes to mind when I think of writing something for Hugh’s blog is the word Friend. Where do I go from there? I think of our friendship and how we are an odd couple, as I call it. I am what one might call a Super Christian, or was so before an accident in my home confined me to my home. I look at that as being odd in my relationship with Hugh because people have an idea of what a Christian is. Why? Because there are some vocal people out there spreading their Church Traditions rather than the Jesus Traditions and Truths.

Hugh would never broach this subject here, but I’m not Hugh. And Hugh is not here to say, “Now, Ron, don’t do that. I don’t want you getting any more hate mail than you already receive. Let’s have some tea and Oreos and watch Mama Mia again.” Hey, don’t judge what Hugh and I do with Skype.

Hugh is a gift. God put him here on this earth for a purpose. When Hugh began to blog, I believe his purpose began to shine and be fulfilled. Just as people from every walk of life visit my blog and think I am not a bad guy and are okay with me expressing what I believe in, so to do, people feel the same about Hugh.

But with Hugh, it’s a bit different. People genuinely love Hugh. Hugh is about the most humble and genuinely loving people I’ve ever met. Instead of spending money on anniversary gifts, he donated $100 to our Friend Kate’s elderly parents, who lost their home and memories and everything in a house fire. The man knows how to love. An ocean away, and he gave.

The Odd Couple

There are people out there who claim to be something yet will hate Hugh because of his lifestyle and who he loves. Well, hate me then. I love Hugh. Hugh is an amazing man. If I lived in England, he would make a great roommate. I would need someone to keep the place from growing fungus. Yes, he would be Felix, and I would be Oscar. I doubt anyone saw it the other way around.

As a Christian, I follow Christ. When you read the words of Christ, you find nowhere does he say loving another human being is wrong. You know, the truth is, sex outside of marriage is what the Bible says is wrong. Any stone casters out there? Some will ask me do I think homosexuality is wrong. I thought I would go ahead and speak to that now.

God created us as man and woman. Then things happened. People became people, and all of us are who we are, and God loves each and every one of us. Do I understand homosexuality? No. By that, I don’t see how I would pick Brad Pitt over Angelina. Just not happening. Nope. Uh Uh. No Iron Man over the Black Widow, either. (Let me contemplate for a moment or 10.) I swear the Black Widow is like, wow. (Give me another 5 minutes.)

Okay, back to Hugh. As a friend, you won’t find anyone better. He’s always there when you need him unless it’s time for dinner. I’ve been chatting, and he says, “Sorry, Ron, dinner time.” and he is gone. Food comes first. He is a man, after all. Food. I just ate a Dove’s chocolate heart. Don’t judge me. It was my last one from Valentine’s Day. It is so good. I even wrote a Confessions post about it. I just didn’t say it was about chocolate. The comments give me the impression chocolate did not come to the mind of the readers.

The Judgers. All of us.

People judge. Christians judge. Non-Christians judge. But we aren’t to judge. I look at Hugh and see Hugh, a nice man with a kind heart. That’s all I see. Most of the time, that is it. Sure there are times I think, “Hugh’s gay.” but those are normally times when he is reviewing a Gay Romance for my Lit World Interviews site. I’m an odd Christian in that I am a Christ Follower and not a Church Traditions Follower. You can apply that to pretty much any faith or any other system of belief out there. It is challenging to follow the truth that you believe without it being contaminated by outside influences. But you can do it.

One way to do it is to keep your friends, like Hugh, in mind. My blog is known by all of the people I know in my local community on Facebook, all the way back to my grade school friends and family. Anyone can read anything I post. I openly call Hugh my Friend, my best pal on the internet, which in truth translates to my best pal in life. (I don’t get out much.) As a Deacon in a Southern Baptist Church, a former Chairman of Deacons, a former Sunday School Director, and a former Youth Pastor, I have no problem saying Hugh is my Friend.

Some are probably shocked by that Southern Baptist confession. It’s a place I hang my hat and is the closest to many of the things I believe in. Not every one of the things, but many. And you would be surprised at how the church I attend would be if Hugh walked in the door one day. He would be escorted to the front pew and have everyone shake his hand, and he would be invited to just about every Sunday School class for the next Sunday, and there is a good chance he would be taken to lunch by someone.

A young, contemporary church? Most of our members are probably over 60 years of age.

Hugh Is Loved

Hugh is loved. Not just by me but by probably every member of the WordPress family who has come across his path.

If you are a Hater, click here and leave a comment for me.

If you are reading this and have made it this far, please leave a comment, even if it is just a smiley face, if you’ve had a positive encounter with Hugh. Give him a surprise when he comes back after his few days away.


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40 thoughts on “#1000Speak A Smiley for my Friend Hugh. A Guest Post by @RonovanWrites

  1. 🙂 A lovely post, and I have to say I absolutely agree. What’s important to me in life isn’t a person’s sexual orientation it’s who they are that counts, if a person is kind, and has a good heart surely that is all that matters? Even before I met Hugh in person I sensed from his blog that Hugh had a good heart – I’m prone to being slightly psychic – so there you are, that’s all you need to know, and equally I sense the same about Ronovan, two good guys. 🙂 Different but friends. I think it is more important to love that’s the key, love is such a powerful and positive emotion and if you love someone of the same sex that’s an individual’s choice, and should always be respected.

  2. I am BLESSED . . . I read both RONOVAN and HUGH’S Blogs and posts . . . I have great RESPECT for both and in my opinion, a person’s sexual orientation is a private matter, and when shared, should be respected. We are ALL God’s children.

    Thoughtful and very nice post!
    SMILES for both RONOVAN and HUGH!

  3. Great guest post, Ron! Hugh has a way of winning your heart. Such kindness and sweetness radiates from him and it smashes through all boundaries. And you’re pretty cool yourself. No wonder you two get along so well. 😉

  4. I’m not a Christian and I dont know Hugh. I dont even know why we still have to have these conversations. It matters not one bit to me what a persons religion, skin colour, sexual preference etc is. Why would it? They are still a human being. I do judge, I’m afraid, but on kindness, friendliness, openness, caring, compassion. It only matters if they are a good person, not perfect, because none of us are, but just good inside. So here is my smiley for Hugh, 😃 and here’s one for you too, Ronovan 😀!

    1. There really wasn’t a need for the conversation. I merely wanted to point out how great Hugh is and how a Christian can be a Christian and a Super Christian and still love a person for everything they are. And also showing people that I could care less if people think one way or the other of me for speaking my mind about it. Thank you for commenting and for giving each of us a smiley. I also wanted to discuss it because I know Hugh must moderate his comments because he receives less than nice comments made and he would never out right say anything as openly as I would. I don’t have that off switch after all. If I think it and feel it, I say it. By the way…YOU ARE SO AWESOME!!!!! LOVE YOU!!!!!

      1. Ronovan… YOU make ME smile! Thank you! It always irritates me when people say things like ‘gay marriage’… its not, its marriage. Do they have ‘gay dinner’, drive a ‘gay car’ and go to ‘gay work’ too? Look what you’ve done… you got me on my soapbox!!! How did that happen? And don’t get me started on Christians lol!

        1. Well being a Christian I don’t suppose I want you after me next. But there are those who believe and act on Christian ‘Traditions’ and then those who act on Christ ‘Teachings’. There is a huge difference. I actually have a Christian blog where I discuss how I see things regardless of ‘Traditions’. Like if Jesus were here at this moment he would be throwing the tables around in most churches just like he did the money changers tables in the temple and be asking the preachers and pastors if they really knew what the Word of God meant.

          I like to think of myself as a common sense more Christ led believer than denomination convention led believer. So just think, a Christian made you smile. 🙂

        2. I like that image of Jesus! I’m not a Christian but I believe Jesus existed , that he was a MAN who behaved like a man, in my view, and could do amazing things. I dont have anything against most Christians, only those who are arrogant and ignorant. The Church wants to keep people in the dark ages. And organised religion is capable of such terrible things. We are still uncovering a sad and horrific legacy of things here in Ireland that the institutions created by God’s followers did in God’s name. I think they manipulate the words of their bible so much. But enough about that. I dont mean to offend a friend…

        3. No worries. I was a History Teacher. I know what was what and who did what and used what to gain power. It’s given a good man and his first followers a lot to overcome. It takes a lot to offend me. 🙂 Only those not secure in who they are and what they believe get offended.

        4. Very true. I’ve enjoyed our conversation tonight, thank you! But now I’m chasing sleep… hope you get some sleep tonight too. Good night! 😌

  5. I’m a Christian but not a traditional church tradition follower either and I love, love Hugh, even though I’ve only known him for a short while. Hugh is one of the kindest, most genuine, loveliest men I’ve come across here in blogland; visits to my blog never fail to bring me huge smiles. And I love your post Ronavan, so utterly refreshing, and I thank you so much for it. Bless you and bless Hugh… love this 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂

  6. I can’t say I know Hugh well but I’ve been following his blog for close to a year now and I agree with all that’s been said here. It’s clear just from popping in now again that he’s a good natured fellow with a big heart.

  7. Love is everywhere if we pay attention and if we choose to see it. This post is a perfect example. And what you said is so true, Ronovan. Thank you for your honesty and courage. Hugh, here is a very big 🙂 for being a super guy!

  8. Hugh is a positive force and a wonderful friend. Sending him a huge hug, packets or oreos and maybe some Snickers bars too. One day, hopefully, we shall all have a big get together somewhere in this fantastic world, share Oreas, lifestories and laughter with wonderful friends like Hugh. xxx

  9. Well said Ronovan. UH (Uncle Hugh) is kind, warm & fun-loving & always entertaining on the blog and in life. As for relationships, his with UJ (Uncle John) is an inspiration in the sense of love, harmony & compatiblity. I’m a Christian like you and reckon it’s all about loving love and hating hate. I think he’ll be touched by your post

  10. There is always more to a person than the labels society puts on them but we’re busy and we’re lazy and it takes time to get to know people. Maybe that’s one of the best things about blogging, through their words, through their thoughts, you get to know people without the blurring of labels.

    I don’t know either Ronovan or Hugh beyond the WordPress world but they are both so generous with their time and their talent and I am forever grateful.

    A Happy Face to both of you 🙂 🙂

  11. Not only a 🙂 but a standing ovation. And TanGental is right, you nailed him, Ronovan. And thank-you for tackling that thing about judgement, you’re spot on about that, too.

  12. I barely know Hugh but my strong sense is you utterly nailed him Ronovan. Lovely touching post. I’m as atheist as you are Christian but hey, so what, it’s all about people and tolerance and what have you and seeing people as what they are by what they say and do not by some simplistic label. So well said. And pass the Remote: I want to go back to the Black Widow…

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