Blogging: Making Friends That Last

Have you seen Hugh? Life has imitated art. The Case of the Disappearing Hugh has jumped from the pages of, well the screens of our, um, electronic devices and now Hugh is MIA on R&R in V.I.C.E or something of that nature. Fortunately, the red button was hit and the alarm went off. Enter me. Ronovan of Ronovan Writes. A little blog on the other side of the big pond that belongs to me and as a friend of Hugh, here I am. “Here I am baby, won’t you come and take me, take me by the hand, ooh show me . . .” Sorry, breaking in to song on this blog seems to be very easy. We are never allowed to be in the same place at the same time just for this purpose. Just so HV&N can continue on. (Hedonistic Ventriloquists & Nudists?)

The bad part of this is, there was no plan of what I was to write about. That means you poor, unfortunate reader are in for a random ride of roaming reading. Sit back, strap yourself in and grab the Oreos and tea. Ew.

I know Hugh likes to share some blogging tips so I thought perhaps I would go that route today. Actually I have decided on one tip.


Every blogger has a reason for being here. Only you really know the reason why. Well there are two reasonsronovans-ten-tips. One is that secret reason only you know and the other is you wanted to share something with people. My blogging tip is really inspired by my being here today.

To have a successful blogging experience you need to enjoy it. To enjoy it helps if you have friends.

Making Friends That Last

Easier said than done in Blog World. People come and go through your life almost as fast as a One Direction hashtag trend on Twitter. And that UB40 up there song will stay in your mind longer than some Bloggers will stay with their blogs.

How do you make a Friend that lasts?


Be open to anyone and everyone.

If you limit your circle of acceptance of the world to say just your country, then you are missing out on a great experience. I have some friends here in the U.S. of A. but I have many others all over the world. If you look at the Lit World Interviews site you can see it. South Africa, England, America and Australia. I have some guest authors lined up from England and France.

Don’t be xenophobic or any other phobic. You miss out on some great people. If you are Tacophobic then we might have a problem.

Also be open to joining groups such as challenges hosted by other bloggers. Some are very easy and the people that participate become good friends. If you make a friend this way, you already have two things in common; blogging and an interest in that challenge.


Consider your friends when you post your articles.

Want to know something I do that isn’t really in the best interest of views for my blog? I Sometimes set my posts to come out at a good time for England when I am still asleep. That’s right, instead of posting during the highest traffic time for blog views, I instead post so my friends in England can see them. I sometimes do it for my friends in Australia and India as well. Yes, I am posting for my friends, not just to get views. I like to think they notice that I do this and it makes them feel kind of special. Okay, so I know it doesn’t cross their minds but I like to pretend. I’m a writer, I pretend a lot. Isn’t that write, Elvis?

I’m not saying you have to do this with every post/article but do it sometimes. It’s just a nice and considerate thing to do.


Think of your friends when you write.

Sometimes I may be on a rant about something and then I sit back and look at it. It’s out of my system. It doesn’t need to be posted. I delete it and then write a poem instead. Usually the poem ends up about sex in some way or love. I guess I go to my happy place when I get angry. I get rid of the negative in my life as quickly as possible. I have no room for it. And I feel my friends have no room to read it from me. Sometimes we will write it and publish it, but don’t make it a habit.


Don’t be a the Real You.

Be real and let people just see who you are. People are afraid to reveal too much about who they are in web land. “Someone will find me.” You know, I don’t even think about that. I mean hey, with a name like Ronovan, where am I going to hide, right?


Be an Encourager.

If your friend is blowing the roof of the stats one day or several days don’t get jealous. Maybe you even have a friend you helped get noticed and now they are beloved and becoming popular. Well you did your job as a friend well. Get over yourself and enjoy their happiness.


Be a friend in more than Blog World.

If you and your friend have the same social networks then join up there as well. The more networks you connect though the more likely you are to stay connected.


Remember your Blog World friends are Human.

There will be times when your friend has real world issues. They won’t always be there and you knew that going in to the friendship. Take what you get and enjoy it.


Share the love.

Share your friend with others. Support them and help them every step of the way. i don’t mean you need to work constantly to reblog, retweet or reread their posts to increase their statistics. Do what you can.


Keep loving through the lulls.

At times you will think the friendship is disappearing but stick with it. It’s too easy to just let a relationship slip away in Blog World.

I speak from experience. For me it’s important to have friends reach out to me at times. There are reasons for it and I will just leave it at that. But I am not able to reach out to them for a reason, which happens a lot then it’s nice when they do and I do show appreciation when it happens. We get worried when we lose touch. I know I do. Hugh and I may go a while without talking and it worries me. But we always end up on the right track again. We are there for the other and we are one of Blog World’s odd couples. The poet and the man who use his pet for cheap views and likes on his blog. Just you wait. There will be a Toby’s Views of the News blog soon.


Know how your Friend Blogs.

I know that sounds odd but each person blogs differently as far as communicating. When I first started blogging I was a commenting and replying fool. I was everywhere. But as time has passedย and health has deteriorated I can’t do that any longer. I still do some but I don’t even know if it would register as a percentage of what I once did. Some friends have been understanding. Some friends have disappeared. Some have even become angry and just left.

But if you know your Friends and you know what to expect of their blogging then you know a lot of things to look for. Hugh is one of those that knows me. And I know him. Sure I miss him now that he is taking it easy on blogging some and he hasn’t visited my challenge lately, but we are still friends.


Well that’s it for the day. Hope you got something out of my randomness. I didn’t want this to be a normal type of tip. Hugh doesn’t have a normal type of blog.

For more Blogging Tips from Hugh visit:

An Insider’s Guide to Planet Blog

More Blogging Tips From the Insider on Planet Blog

And one last thing. It’s not a post on Hugh’s blog if there isn’t a video to share. So, Here it is Baby.


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44 thoughts

  1. Excellent advice, Ronovan. Wow! What a fabulous name! Hi, Hugh! It is difficult some times for me to get the balance right, and I know I tend towards the raging rant from time to time! Thanks for these tips.

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      1. It’s a great name, Ronovan. My name is actually Alienora! For decades, I was ashamed of it; now, I love it because it’s unusual. Do you find that?

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      2. As far as I know I must have not liked my name. People use Ron at times here. But I do enjoy Ronovan. It’s memorable and sounds not bad with the blog title I have. Plus I’m almost, almost unique.


  2. I come here expecting Hugh and I find Ronovan… hmmm. ๐Ÿ™‚ That was really an awesome bloggy tip post and oh so full of truth. We are all human after all and should support and encourage eachother through eachothers hardships. It is awesome that the two of you are such good friends. They are important to have.

    “At times you will think the friendship is disappearing but stick with it” sigh, at this I’m an overachiever once you got me glued, I stick there. ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Thank you for an awesome post Ron. And Hugh (hugs). ๐Ÿ™‚

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  3. What a pleasant surprise to find you over here! (I just read your post about writing over on your blog so it’s like you’re everywhere.)

    Thanks for sharing excellent tips! I think this is an area of blogging that some people don’t realize exists but I think it’s an important part.

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    1. I actually have a site I go to so I can get all the times right for where my friends are. It’s random which time zone I choose unless the topic just seems to fit for some reason. ๐Ÿ™‚


  4. Hey, Ron…very good tips for blogging, real down to Earth ones, not like some you see around. I especially like the interaction and conversations with other bloggers, but I’m guilty, too, of not making enough comments on the ones I follow, and just hitting the like button. Oh, you always find the best songs! ๐Ÿ™‚

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  5. That WAS random! But cool too. Sometimes I think bloggers worry more about stats than anything else. Of course, we’re writers, we want our stuff to get read, but its the most wonderful feeling to connect with someone via your or their blog, and find there is a meeting of minds. I’ve made some great friends through blogging, it makes me smile to read the comments they leave on my posts, and I cant wait to read and comment on theirs. Some have become friends beyond the blog. If I never wrote another book, I’d still carry on blogging. The more followers you get though, the harder it is to keep it so personal.

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    1. Being that it was for Hugh the post seemed rather appropriate although I truthfully had no idea what I was going to write until I started writing. I never do. What you read is what came out. ๐Ÿ™‚ And thank you!


  6. Well Hugh,
    I’m sorry to say this but this message is for Ronovan. Sorry, you ain’t got mail!
    Thanks for this great as usual post. I have Irish heritage so I love your name. I have developed friends on my blog and I had a couple who had been frequent posters suddenly stop and I’ve really missed them…particularly one of them. I have been a writer almost all of my life and since I’ve been crook, I’m not working full time but that said, I run on a small tank too but writing doesn’t take a lot of physical energy although writing my blog is leading to many sleepless nights.
    I usually leave comments on a post because I know how much I love the comments and I like people to feel valued and have their work validated. The comments also really add so much depth to a post…as well as humour and different perspectives on the topic.
    I belong to a couple of networks of bloggers. I follow quite a few dog blogs and they usually use their dog to illustrate something else like local history or in my case philosophy and personal development. It’s funny when I take my own dogs for a walk and I’ve become much more conscious of other dogs and their owners now.
    I share Alison’s concern about being personal when your network expands. We’ve shared a few personal messages too. I am looking at putting together a folder and printing out the about pages for my favourite bloggers. I like to be personal and remember where they’re from etc especially after you’ve had a few chats. I have a bad memory and I’m starting to mix a few people up.
    Didn’t mean to write an essay but your post covered so many points.
    Hope you’re going okay. I know what it’s like for health to pin you down.
    xx Rowena


    1. It’s all good under the hood and all stable in this fable, that we call life. I have no idea. It’s just something I like to say tho all essayist named Rowena who speak through their dogs. ๐Ÿ˜‰ Thank you for the comment. ๐Ÿ™‚

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    1. Thanks, Marsha. This was actually a guest post written by Ronovan, over at Ronovanwrites, so full credit has to go to him for all these tips in this post. However, I learned a lot about Blogging from him and making friends was one of the most important tips he gave.

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      1. He did a great job on that post. I’m sorry I missed seeing his name. I agree with his ideas wholeheartedly. Relationships are one of the most important reasons that most of us blog, I think. We may not start out that way, but in the end that is what we are all about. I am amazed at the enormous interactions that your blog attracts. I think many pro bloggers would kill to have the quality of engagement that you attract with your blog posts.


      2. Thanks, Marsha. Answering and responding to comments can take up a lot of time but I think it’s a vital part of what blogging is all about. The secret is to always respond to comments and as quickly as you can. That way, people will know that you do read their comments and that they will get a response. That, in turn, means they will engage with you even more.

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      3. That is the key, but there must be more than that because I do that. I don’t have nearly the number of engaged readers you do. I have lovely engaged readers, don’t get me wrong, but just not the number. I wonder how much time you spend answering comments because you are very thorough. ๐Ÿ™‚


      4. I think another key is that I visit and leave comments on other blogs as often as I can. However, I’ll only leave a comment if I have something that is going to add value. I remember once seeing a comment from the same blogger scattered all over WordPress. All it said was “Great Post.” I guess it says a lot, but when it’s the same comments on lots of posts it kinda looses its meaning. I don’t see that blogger anywhere anymore. ๐Ÿ˜€

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      5. I agree. There is a middle ground somewhere, though, I think. I used to wear some of my friends out with comments. And one of my dear friends would almost write an entire post in response. Once in a while I told her to turn it into a post. It also seem that certain bloggers just hit it off and poor they are best friends. That has happened to me, too. I’m never sure just why that works. But it does! Thanks for making me think, Hugh!

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